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Old 25th September 2005, 4:08 PM   #1
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how can I let this happen?

I met the most amazing guy. His name is Luke. He is funny, he has a great personallity, he respects me, and I could tell he cares about me. We were gonna go out, but we decided to stay friends. It was awesome in the beginning. To have a guy I could rely on was just amazing, he made time for me, he took me out.....but lately hes too busy for me. He doesnt come up to see me, and things are changing. He doesnt have a girlfriend because if he did I would be the first one to know. He gets mad at me so easily and it hurts. To find that one person you could talk to and then have him change right in front of your own eyes. It kills. Im sitting her, I have no idea where he is, and I feel like complete crap! He came up yesterday for like 2.5 seconds and left. No hug no goodbye he just walked away. I mean what did I do? He never wants to take me anywhere anymore, and I feel as if he just wants to do is own thing and leave me out of it. I mean im not his girlfriend ( I wish to God I was) I shouldnt have to know where he is 24/7, but when he ditches me and my best friend to go do something more impostant gets us both mad. I mean hes still a great guy, I still care about him, but im really thinking about sitting him down and having a talk. I feel as if im losing him as a friend second by second....what should I tell him?
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Old 26th September 2005, 4:54 AM   #2
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Tell him that his behavior towards you has changed and that you'd like to find out why - if it was something you said or did. You shouldn't have to be able to read his mind and be in the dark and be treated badly without at the least given an explanation, especially since you are someone who cares about him...

Don't get accusational and defensive, just calmly ask for an explanation so that you won't waste your energy wondering why - that is so insensitive of him...unless he's starting to develop feelings for you and doesn't know how to act around you...
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Old 26th September 2005, 8:45 PM   #3
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He probably has better options (ie. girls or a cool fun activity) than hanging with you. Don't feel bad about it, that's how it is, and if he was so "great" he'd setup plans with you all the time.
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