Did you survive the MM??

starreyes · 10th September 2005, 11:29 PM

I've read a lot of posts here and was wondering.......has anyone ever walked away from a MM they truly gave their heart to and is doing good now? Maybe we need some encouraging stories. How hard was it for you? Still in touch and friends or is he completely out of the picture? What did you learn?

califlorgian · 11th September 2005, 10:58 PM

No..... :/

I tried... couldn't..... now he is half-way living with me..... and separated from his wife. I don't know what I am doing.

DesertDweller · 13th September 2005, 12:54 AM

The MM I had an EA with turned out to be a passive-aggressive a**hole. I'm glad he's gone, and I hope he stays away. I honestly feel sorry for his wife for wasting so much of her life on him.

16th September 2005, 12:07 AM

It was tough but i survived through the drama...When I first met my MM he told me he was already divorced from the ex, well come to find out through general conversation he slips up and admits they were still married. Well 3 yrs later through all the drama (and custody battles to get his three kids by the EX) I stayed by his side and stuck through the drama and now we are engaged to be married next year. =)

Trust me I was SO HARD to do, especially me myself not having kids and dealing with his ex wife, but I knew this was the person I wanted to spend the rest of my life with and it was worth the drama and the wait.

floatinglotus · 18th September 2005, 4:53 AM

Hi There,

I survived! It was so hard. I cried my heart out and wanted to die but I'm still here, alive and kicking to boot!

The only way I was able to move on was because I told the wife of the whole ordeal. For some reason this disclosure brought peace back into my life. It was now out of my hands and I just had to get on with it.

So yes, you can move on. Yes, you can survive and you can definitely thrive. That's what's happening to me now.

Good luck and keep posting! It really helps.

FL

allaboutchoices · 17th October 2005, 10:10 PM

I also survived

. It's been hard but doable. And no, we are not in touch. It's too heart-breaking for everyone involved.

Katch22 · 18th October 2005, 1:22 PM

Amen it's good to hear that we will survive!!! I'm working on this right now!!

The only way I was able to move on was because I told the wife of the whole ordeal. For some reason this disclosure brought peace back into my life. It was now out of my hands and I just had to get on with it.

That is what my feelings were at the end too!! How come he was allowed to return back home like all is well and I'm left still picking all of the pieces of my life that he created with me but then just left it like a bad habit!! After a year A he was going home and not suffer from any of his wrong doings BS I wasn't allowing that.