This is kind of trivial but I want some opinion on it. My boyfriend prefers to talk to me after 9pm so he doesn't use up his minutes. I just called him at around 8:30 and he says, I'll talk to you after 9, okay? Do the guys here do that to their girlfriends? I don't think he does that to any of his other friends, just me. But then again he talks to me the most. Am I taking this too personally?
i think you may be overreacting. if you have something important to say then he should speak to you, yes. but if you are just calling with idle chit chat, you can wait 30 minutes. poor or not, that sh*t adds up. and depending on where you live the cost of living can be high. i have a few friends that do that to me. me? i'm an ass and i would talk to you, but then again i pay extra some months...
tell him to switch to a carrier that his nights will start at 7pm...
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Thanks for all the replies. Yeah, the calling after 9 thing has become like a habit in my relationship. It's a minor annoyance I have to live with I guess. He actually suggested that we use the same phone company so we can talk for free all the time.
He actually suggested that we use the same phone company so we can talk for free all the time.
See that shows you that its the only reason he does that. Doesn't he have a landline or something that he can call you from ?? If not think about changing your plan or carrier to accomidate your phone needs..
Well.. some ppl want to keep their phone bills as low as possible.. if this bugs you, just tell him.. maybe he will pay a few extra bucks and call you earlier.
It's hard to beleive that your boyfriend is so cheap that he won't ever talk to you before 9..kinda funny 2. Have you two been dating long? I've known men who will call from anywhere if they really want to talk with me...a friend's house, work just to say hello, a pay phone, remember those? I once had a guy friend who had free incoming so he'd call and we'd chat for a couple but then he'd always say okay call me right back you know I get free incoming.
I'm cheap with my minutes too but I'd sacrifice them if the person is worth my .10 per min. So I don't know if anyone else said it and I don't wanna rain on your parade but it sounds like an excuse to me. You better ask short change who the he's using all his daytime minutes on. Hope you work it out.
His company actually pays for his phone plan. Most of his minutes go toward work related stuff. The company reimburses up to a reasonable amount, after that he has to pay. It's not that I mind waiting until 9, I'm just afraid this could signal something else, like he's not willing to spend a little extra money to talk to me. But since the opinion seems to be split on this one, I think I'll just let it go.
So no one here has this kind of arrangement with their SO?
My SO and I talk before 9 everyday, usually with me calling him so that he doesn't spend his minutes. He has the same kind of arrangement your guy does, a Nextel phone that his company pays for, and he's a pretty frugal guy, so, it might not be a big deal that he wants to talk to you after 9. Does he make excuses not to talk to you if you call him? Are there other problems in your relationship? Just set calling guidelines, tell him you'll call him so he doesn't spend his minutes, and if he fudges on that, then there may be biger problems. Good luck.
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