True Love or Big Fish Story

LovedorSugarDaddy

My GF has told me for the past six months during quiet intimate times that she loves me. I would never tell someone that I love them unless I really do, and the truth is I have not fallen in love with my GF, and I have been truthful with her. This has understandably caused some conflict and hurt feelings both for her and me since I am not able to return verbal reassurance to her that I am in love as well. Yet I still feel that it is better to be completely honest.

Last week however we were riding in the car when she says that she has become wary of falling "completely in love" because of being hurt in the past, and that she is scared of falling completely in love with me because of this. So I asked does that mean she is not completely in love with me, and she stated rather emphatically, "no I am not crazy in love with you." I asked how she loves me then, and she said like family. I replied that I hear her tell her family and many friends every day that she loves them so how does she love me any differently. I asked did that mean she "loved me" but was not "in love" with me ? She stated that she was "in love." I told her that I really could not understand how someone could be "in love," as opposed to loving someone, and not be "crazy in love" because at least in my experience they were the same thing.

Later that evening as we were drifting off to sleep, she whispered in my ear that she really did love me.

Let me briefly state that I have had doubts about my GF being with me for financial gain since I am totally supporting her, and I am 20 years her senior, and this incident made me wonder again. I really found her explanation how she was "in love," but not "crazy in love," not very believable, and the whisper later that night almost made things worse because the emphatic statement in the car, "I am not CRAZY in love with you, no," still rings in my ears.

How do others feel about this incident?