[caring guy]

Hi all
I expect all of you have read No Foolin's post down below, it's a classic & reads so well.
We parted on Thursday & mostly to do with my problems i am addressing. Problems that hindered some of our 18 month relationship. There were great times, but some bad times that i look back on with disgust with myself!
It came to a head at end June when we hada big row & fate has it she was out with a friend in a bar & someone approached her & they had dinner & saw each other a fiew times over a month, seeing me too, hence the space she wanted from me, so she could see him too & come to a decision.

We spent Thursday together & talked a lot & she still loves me, but not that way anymore, but says she wants to see me, for coffee in town & a chat & we can chat on msn etc (she did this with ex's whilst i was with her), i did trust her then, but i know i drove her to this, so it's not like she had no reason to look elsewhere, although she admits, she should have come to a decision about me first! She couldn't take the risk of giving me a chance to sort my problems out, as she's heard it all before & experienced it in other relationshios!, but Actions & only Actions, speak louder than words!, this is why she wants to see me & i can show her my progress.

As we parted, emotions showing, she asked me to message her soon. There nebver was a no contact rule, as we still have each others stuff at each others houses.
What i'm saying is/ it's all about her missing me, so she must do the first move & by me contacting her, it's like me seeming needy, yeh! Like a push & pull thing!, i push, she pulls & vica versa.
I love her to bits & she is in my mind 24/7 & i want her back! I've belatedly offered her my comitment & told her my feelings for her & her kids.
Question.
Where is the fine line between not contacting her & hoping she will me in her time, & me not contacting & her thinking i'm not bothered anymore?
As there's been no rule between ourselves, except that we said we could be in contact, we both could be waiting for each other!.