Basically, it's my girlfriend's birthday on Monday and so she's going out on Sunday evening with about 20 of her friends (guys and girls) on a drinking session, ending up at a club. She's 17 (yes, not even legal to go clubbing, but I don't think that stops most people!).
I am 22. We've been together nearly six months, but the relationship hasn't been without it's problems...she argues a lot about nothing, trivialities, which frustrates me (she has a really bad temper and will change at the flip of a coin) and we've had issues about her ex-bf. Basically, she's been out driving with him until 3am on three or four occasions! Makes me livid! I find it a bit of a cheek to be honest but she says he's her friend and she refuses to stop being friends with him. And he is going on Sunday, even though she knows how I feel!
Despite all this...I still find I love her - I must be crazy, everyone else thinks I am!
Anyway, today, she asked me to go to hers to which I said I can't as I don't have any money and I literally don't have a penny to my name at the moment (I've just finished university) to get buses or taxis. She threw a tantrum and hung up.
Next thing, I receive a text message from her saying that she doesn't want me going to her birthday on Sunday. So I ring her and say, "You're telling me that you don't want me going to your birthday?" and she said "Yeah, because you'll ruin it" and I replied, "What on earth are you talking about?" - I really don't have a clue. Anyway, I said "That's nice, you claim you love me and yet you don't want me there for your birthday, but you want everyone else there - including your ex-boyfriend!! She replied, "Yep, that's right" and was basically being extremely arrogant on the phone and cocky because she was with two of her girl friends. So, I replied, "Well, if you're telling me you don't want me at your Birthday then I think we might as well end this now" to which she replied, "OK then, bye" and she hung up.
I basically just think what a coincidence that she's done this when she's going out on Sunday with her mates - she always seems to cause an argument like this so she can dump me and then go out pulling and say, "We weren't together" and then she comes running back the next day.
Anyway, I just want to see if people think I've done the right thing here by telling her to forget the relationship?
I find it a bit of a cheek to be honest but she says he's her friend and she refuses to stop being friends with him. And he is going on Sunday, even though she knows how I feel!
Do you know by her doing this shows she has not respect for you or the relationship!!
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Anyway, I just want to see if people think I've done the right thing here by telling her to forget the relationship?
Uh yes you did the right thing, what kind of question is that?
Anyway, just try your hardest to move on and try to forget this girl. It's obvious that she doesn't care for you or loves you the way you do. She's still very immature and you can do better I'm sure. Why would you want to be with someone who disrepsects you in front of people and puts you last?
I love my bf and I could not imagine not sharing my special day with him and with my friends. I wouldn't put up with that shyt!
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Originally posted by SadHatter
OK, so it's not just me then! Someone else agrees her seeing her ex-bf is a cheek!
I think your missing my point! Her ex bf yes is a huge factor and I wouldn't allow them to see each other, for what?
How could she not want you to go if YOUR her bf? That's the whole thing. She's making all these plans with her friends and leaving you in the dust. What kind of relationship is that? It should be easy to get over this girl.
A relationship is built on respect by both people. She has no respect for you when it comes down to it and you have allowed her to continue to take advantage of you up until the point you broke it off. Move on and find someone who will treat you better.
Originally posted by SadHatter
Anyway, I just want to see if people think I've done the right thing here by telling her to forget the relationship?
Actually, SADHATTER, this woman is out of control and if you don't put her in her place right quick it will eventually be you who'll be sitting on the curb crying.
Never let any woman dominate you in a romantic relationship.
Originally posted by westernxer
She'll look you up when she realizes her child needs a father.
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I think you're right - she has no respect for me and treats me like s**t!!! She must think I am thick - its so obvious she creates an argument when it comes to her going out so she can go out and do exactly what she wants and then say, "Well we weren't together"
Originally posted by alphamale when you get to our age (40+) there ain't much difference between a 17 yr old and a 22 yr old. they are both inexperienced kiddies.
hey speak for yourself old man....I still got 20 days to go!!!
but u'r right, they are both kids and at that age 5 years is a HUGE difference compared to 40 and 45
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