[Donburi]

Hello again. My ex of three years who broke up with me 4 months ago (for valid reasons) keeps asking me if I am going to attend his b-day party. I am still not sure if I should go, though I would really like to. I guess I will share the conversation we had online with you all.

Him: Hey, are you still coming to the birthday party?
Me: I dunno...I'm still thinkin' about it.
Him: Cause we were gonna do an early dinner thing with just a few people ,and a bigger mario kart gaming get together later, and I wanted to know if you could make it to the early dinner thing.
Me: I see...who else is going to the dinner thing?
Him: I was thinking like P and T and D or something (I thought it was interesting that those happen to be the friends of his who still like me.)
Him: Not a ton of people, just a small group like that.
Me: ok, maybe.
Him: You need to let me know so I an arrange it though.
Me: um, ok..are you gonna make reservations or something?
Him: yeah
Me: where are we going?
Him: I was thinking Ragin Shrimp
Me: you've never done reservations before....
Him: True, but just in case
Me: are your parents going?
Him: Yeah
Him: They wanted to take us all out
Him: So, I'd still like you to come...
Me: do you feel obligated to ask me because I'm your "friend" now?
Him: well...yeah...
Him: is that wrong of me to still consider you a friend?
Me: well, I guess not....but you know how I feel.
Him: so, you're saying I should've just stopped all communication with you altogether?
Me: I dunno...if you don't plan on working on our relationship, then I guess, yeah.
Him: Did I say I didn't plan on it?
Me: you never said that, but actions do speak louder than words (its been 4 months already, Jeez!)
Him: Ok, what I DID say is that I do want to work on things, but it's going to be a SLOW process, right?
Him: and that I want to work on renewing our friendship first, since that's a pretty key base to work on.
Me: I don't understand. what exactly needs to happen during the time we're being "friends" for us to be ready as a couple again?
Him: There you go! I don't know either!
Him: You dont know, and I dont know, so it's just gotta happen when it does!

And we kinda stopped talking about it from there. I had done NC for about 4 days before he IM'ed me out of nowhere, and I couldn't really ignore an invitation. Well, maybe I should have, but I would have felt rude doing so.

Since most people in general have the same habits and behaviors I was just wondering if from your experience, if he sounds like he means everything he says.
I think some people would feel like this was a good sign and I was happy when he said those things too but it is hard to take seriously because some days he will say things like this, other days he says he doesn't know if we are going to get back together or not. Thanks for reading.