Well, to make a long story short - ex and I broke up about a month and a half ago after going out for 2.5 years. It was her that did the breaking up, and the reasoning behind it was that she did not feel as though she was the most important thing in my life and I did not hold her up on a "pedestal". She said that I had a very full plate (which I do - I am working on two degrees and have a full time job). The last time we spoke was June 20th, at which time she had said she wanted a break and I told her that I knew exactly what a break meant. She dropped me like a bad habit at a very bad time in my life, and I never heard from her again.....until now.
So, I came back home after a weekend away to a message on my phone from her. She sounded very nervous and her voice was shacky, she said "Hi, it's me, I'm just calling to see how you're doing....so....give me a call back".
Do I give her a call back? What is/are the hidden meaning(s) here? I'm hoping a nice girl will tell me from the female perspective if there are any, or if I should take it at face value.
I was starting to think that I was over it - I hadn't thought about her for a couple days or so, I wasn't depressed or down, I was away playing golf with a co-worker just enjoying myself and then WHAM!
I feel like it just happened all over again! What if I hear things I don't want to hear if I call her?
Honestly, I dont think you should call her back yet. Like you said, you arent emotionally ready for the consequences - whether they be good or bad. Try waiting it out a few more days, if she really wanted to talk to you, she will call you again, or maybe even stop by in person. Remember, she was the one who wanted the break. Don't forget how she dropped you like a bad habit.
It is only now that since u did the NC, she is wondering why the heck you arent calling her? Some people dont realize, they get what they ask for. My ex is doing the same thing to me now that I did the whole NC thing. So if you can wait it out a few more days, JUST TO MAKE sure you can handle talking to her. Get some logic back in you, knowing full well, that this girl might not be the one. and when i say handle, realize you need to follow your mind and not so much your heart b/c right now, you need to protect your raw and open emotions or else it can become a cycle.
Hey totallyconfused, I think you are right on the money. Now, what makes this even spookier is the fact that we are from the same home town and go to the same college that is like an hour away from where we grew up. I stay on campus year round, and she goes home and stays with her parents over the summer. When she was wanting the "break", she made a comment to the tune of "maybe we will get back together when I get back to school". That time is approaching rather quickly, and I'm starting to think that she wanted to look around for something better while I am down here busting my @$$ without mommy and daddy to fall back on! This past period of time has really shown me her true colors.
Thank you both for your advice....if you can think of more, keep it coming!
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