OK I used to go to school with this girl, we werent friends or really knew each other, but fast foward a few years and we ended up working together. We have very quickly become friends, we call each other and hang out alot. So last night she brings me with her as she runs some errands and we go back to her place and watch movies, her roomates are there for a few but all end up leaving. So were just hanging in her room watching movies, I'm sitting on the floor, shes on her bed, and she kepts saying stuff like "i don't have cooties, you can come up on the bed, etc" I didnt really want to because we had been outside in the heat and I knew I probably didnt smell the greatest, but after I cooled off I did get up on the bed, after a little while she starts texting someone and starts looking like she's waiting for me to do something.
I have been noticing a little sexual tension between us, like I have this hilarious sense of humor that girls seem to love, so shes always playfully hitting me, and a few days ago she was a little drunk and kept making little comments about me and her having sex, and yesturday I made this crack about her checking out my ass and she said something like "you want me to check out your ass"? I hadn't really found myself attracted to her before but not I am, but I have this nasty habit of misinterpreting things and ruining my friendships with girls, so I want to avoid that at all cost. Any comments/advice
If you are unsure, then just play off of her moves. Go with the flow and if things happen they happen, and if not..well then they dont.
But Im scared that if you wait for her to make the first move, and she doesnt and she expected you to, then shes going to think you dont like her..SO, I would just be open with her..Let her know you like her wether its holding her hand, giving her a kiss on the cheek goodnight, or just complementing her.
Just do something so she knows its okay to take the next step.
Do the movie thing again, but this time make sure it's either really cold in the room or it's a horror flick (horror as in Blair Witch, not gory). Either way, if she is interested, she'll make a semi-move by getting closer to you. Either sharing a blanket or faking being scared of the movie or whatever. The plus with the horror movie is that she won't want to be left alone after the movie is over. Hell, Blair Witch scared the crud outta me and I didn't even want to use the restroom alone.
Depending on how close she gets, you'll know if she is interested in you or not and it's easier to talk with each other how you both feel since you're both pretty much in each other arms by then watching the flick.
Or it may fail horribly, g'luck though.
...probably best to tell her how you feel actually, disregard what I said above, unless you're drunk, then go for the above tactic.
So this girl jokes about having sex with you, and she even invited you to her bed and you're not sure whether she likes you or not? Am I missing something here?
Originally posted by blue16
So this girl jokes about having sex with you, and she even invited you to her bed and you're not sure whether she likes you or not? Am I missing something here?
I guess, it's the combination of the two things that make it likely that she's interested in you, even though I'm not sure if it's just for having fun or for more (meaning relationship). Inviting you to sit on the bed with her to watch a movie in my opinion is not clearly a sign that she's interested in you. I'd consider it rude to let a friend of mine sit on the floor while I'm sitting on my bed, so I might ask him to join me as well. If I wasn't interested in the guy though I'd probably just let it happen once and try to avoid this kind of situations in the future.
Well the plot thickens...last night while we were working she was talking about having a date with some guy on monday and another one on wednesday with someone she really cant stand. So she's like "wanna be my tuesday date?" she sounded like she was joking so I said sure but later on she says "don't forget about tuesday" so I think she's really wanting to go out.
I would wonder what your intentions are. You say you really aren't that attracted to her so is it just the possibility of sex? I wouldn't ruin a friendship over just a shot of sex if you really don't see anything for the two of you. Just stay friends and if she keeps pushing you with dating talk just do like women and say, " I don't want to ruin our friendship".
No not at all, see the reason I wasnt all that attracted to her before was because I was just getting to know her. See I'm the type of guy who doesnt start to like a girl until I've gotten to know her. And now that I'm getting to know her I'm finding myself more and more attracted to her.
Originally posted by Spartan 117
Well the plot thickens...last night while we were working she was talking about having a date with some guy on monday and another one on wednesday with someone she really cant stand. So she's like "wanna be my tuesday date?"...
I have a friend that I've known for going on 17 years and about 2 years ago we got inimate, but we wern't dating . that was going on for about a year and then just stoped. but we still hang out but not as much as we use to.When we do hang out shes always playfully hitting me and touching me.and she has no problems getting in my bed.and she has no problem with taking her clothes if front of me and she always laughs at my jokes even if they suck, and she always laughs when I laugh , and about three weeks ago i asked her if she would want to go out with me and she said I consider us friends. Then I found out she had just started dating someone the day before I asked her out. I need help I can't tell if she likes me or not. PLEASE SOMEONE GIVE ME SOME ADVICE!!!!!
I have a friend that I've known for going on 17 years and about 2 years ago we got inimate, but we wern't dating . that was going on for about a year and then just stoped. but we still hang out but not as much as we use to.When we do hang out shes always playfully hitting me and touching me.and she has no problems getting in my bed.and she has no problem with taking her clothes if front of me and she always laughs at my jokes even if they suck, and she always laughs when I laugh , and about three weeks ago i asked her if she would want to go out with me and she said I consider us friends. Then I found out she had just started dating someone the day before I asked her out. I need help I can't tell if she likes me or not. PLEASE SOMEONE GIVE ME SOME ADVICE!!!!!
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