[smile95]

A lot of you know my story and I appreciate all of your help. Overall, I have decided after doing NC, trying to work things out, trying friends, etc etc etc, it finally comes down to this......I love this man. He loves me....BUT....in his life right now, he is making no effort to make me happy or to fit me in(and believe me, I do not ask for much-a call once a week does not cut it for me when we are LD). He will not budge and takes me for granted. I do not want to have to ask for a call/visit. He claims to love me and miss me, yet, he will not follow thru with actions and his crazy job seems to be #1 right now. That part will never change.

I want to move on and fall in love again. I was wondering if anyone has has left someone that they loved, but for some reason it just could not work at the time(Whether it be distance, married, work, etc) and you moved on. We have a great connection, but I am tired of doing all of the work and holding onto memories? I love him and my heart is breaking, but I can only take so much, ya know? He does not do any work with me anymore since he "has " me and knows I never leave. I have to now. I have to walk away. I am not happy and it is VERY VERY draining to wait on his calls and everythingon his terms. Is it ok to let go if I still love him? HE does not yell at me or hit me or anyhting, but he hurts my feelings and seems to play with my head a little. he cannot even make time to call/email/text me everyday. He works a lot and actaully he does not even make time for his son either?

I guess what I am asking is, if I have done all I can(it has been 3 yrs-2.5 of which has been one sided) is it ok to let go even if I want to be with him. I feel I am getting more hurt by staying. The part I cannot process is "If I love him, do I stick it out?" THe other part I do not get is why is his job more imp than me! if I should stay and try or suck it up, what other approach do I take? Just back off and let him be?

I know that he loves me, but in his own way. A way that I may not be ok with. I just feel like thiings iwll never change and if I know this now, should I just go before I spend 4 yrs feeling this way? I cannot talk to him about this stuff. He just says we are fine and I am overreacting.

I guess I just need to be reassured that it is ok to leave someone you love if you feel you have done all you can and they still make no effor tto work with you or make you happy. I guess it is ok to break up without a certain issue to break up over? right? Just the fact that I cry mor than I smoe shouldbe enough? Do I tell him or just pull away? Seems like when I pull away he tries more. When I am all loving toward him, he is no where to be found? MEN?