[scared shy]

Does anyone else think it's sad that love can turn to hate within the blink of an eye? I guess it's a fine line between the two, but it's very easy to step off that line once you have been to hell and back with someone...
Just food for thought.

[d'Arthez]

Love and hate are not each others opposites. And love and hate are not emotionally related (in the sense that love is a more intense form of hate).

What often happens is that what you share in a very unhealthy situation is called 'love' - as we have to justify to ourselves why we are in that particular situation. Truth is love/hate relationships have often little to do with love.

[scared shy]

I never said or meant to imply they are eachother's opposites. They are for sure on the opposite end of the emotional spectrum... perhaps I should have said "Isn't it sad that love can turn into extreme dislike?" Is that better...

I wasn't talking about love/hate relationships... I am talking about a relationship where you loved someone and loved him unconditionally and then little by little they suck your life force and eventually you grow to "dislike" them. I am not talking cheating or abuse or whatever else a unhealthy situation constitutes... I am just ranting on how sometimes people through no fault of their own are emotionally retarded, and no matter how hard you try they just will never get it and after awhile it grows cold... I guess maybe I really don't know how to properly express my views, other than there is a thin line between love and "dislike"...

[d'Arthez]

But in the process of change (which happens mostly unawares) you would perceive the changing relationship as a loving relationship - although probably a stagnant relationship. The stagnation part does not necessarily have to be something bad. Both partners in the relationship are not realizing that the slowly changing dynamic redefines the relationship. And what they mean to each other, as a result of that.

A single act of sucking the life-force out of a relationship is just that. But if it is a regular habit - then it will appear to be a regular part of the relationship. If a guy for instance regularly comments in the presence of his gf on hot looking women, the gf might get used to that behavior. She may even barely notice it, when bf does that. It does not mean, that the behavior is without its effects on the whole relationship.

Good intentions are not enough to keep a relationship alive. These have to be backed up by actions and a good understanding of what goes on in a relationship - in short, conscious work on the relationship.

[NightsEcho]

Love is beautiful, and hate is destructive.

During a breakup, when we lose something that we love that means so much to us, the natural reaction is to start to hate them. We blame them for putting us through this pain. Hate is not good. Nothing good has ever come out of hate.

The best thing is try and UNDERSTAND...what is happening, accept that you can't control everything, and face every challenge that comes at you.

Of course, if your ex is a cheating, lying, manipulative person.......a little anger is to be expected