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Would it be possible to emphasize to new users when they are going to post their question to be as brief as possible? I am sure the responses would increase if the post was kept to a more digestable length.
I am sure many of the users here would be more motivated to offer advice/opinions if we had the Reader's Digest version
Maybe they can make post like a certain amount of characters of less. That might slim things down a little bit. That's why I don't reply to alot of new threads because they are way too long.
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I agree that the new posters have more of a problem with this than the regulars. From time to time you might see a long post by a reg (I'm sure I've been guilty of it a time or 2) but they are usually NO WHERE NEAR as looooong as the new users.
That's because some people over exaggerate the real issues. I know some regulars have big post but there not like a page long and if you where to post a comment to the thread it would go to another page.
Personally, I think the reason is that new posters aren't a custom to the regular gang that hang out here. That's probably why they are explaining themselves in length.
I prefer it that way because you can get a better read of the particular person and their situation......that's just me.
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There's always someone willing to read a long post and answer it and, as someone pointed out, it can be good for someone in trouble to pour out his or her story in depth. Nobody's forced to read them, after all.
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Originally posted by moimeme
There's always someone willing to read a long post and answer it and, as someone pointed out, it can be good for someone in trouble to pour out his or her story in depth. Nobody's forced to read them, after all.
I totally agree. For some people, "getting it all out" is just a part of the healing process...and for some, feeling the freedom to get it out is a huge step of courage for them. I've never been bothered by lengthy posts, as long as there's some paragraphs and a bit of punctuation thrown in. ;-)
Originally posted by moimeme
There's always someone willing to read a long post and answer it and, as someone pointed out, it can be good for someone in trouble to pour out his or her story in depth. Nobody's forced to read them, after all.
I also agree with this, a long thread with full information is always better than half baked information.
And I strongly object to any nomenclature which says as new user and old user, having spent some time on LS does not grant any privilege.
Why do people forget the days when they were writing long posts or starting 10 threads in one day
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In general, it probably will be true that a poster who is posting quite a bit, will have revealed more personal information compared to the not so frequent poster. We know what goes on in the lifes of <insert frequent posters>. Not so with those who post barely at all.
There are exceptions though. And I am glad it is that way. Imagine you, reading all my ...
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Last edited by d'Arthez; 1st July 2005 at 10:36 AM..
Maybe some posts are a bit longer than others, because some people have more complex problems than the usual LS gang. But that's probably also just understandable for those who don't think that two-liners are appropiate answers to any kind of situation. Also, maybe we should recommend them to start thirty threads about the same topic and spread them on the whole LS messageboard instead of just dwelling on the - gasp - same thread - how boring.... *yawn*.
Greenhorn is right, some people obviously have forgotten how long their posts used to be and how desperate they were at that moment.
Well, I do want paragraphs and some proper grammar and spelling though, but these are my only requirements to read through it.
Last edited by millefiori; 1st July 2005 at 10:58 AM..
Reason: paragraphs, grammar and spelling
The only thing that bothers me is that a thread about "Homosexuals" get over 400 replys and the thread starter is someone who's favored or shall I say been here a while. Than others who just came on or aren't favored tend to get 5 to 8 replys the most and really don't get much advice.
I'm just using this as an example because it does bother when you have a problem and no one replys. Yes you aren't forced to read them but it would help the thread starter.
I do think some threads are WAY to long and should be minimized, but new comers don't know no one will read their post until they get NO REPLYS.
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for instance, I have absolutely no experience with how to date women in the US. If I don't reply to a thread on dating women on the US the original poster does not lose out on my advice or take on the situation - there simply would not be advice. And what holds true for me, will hold true for others, with regards to different subjects.
There is already a feature to check the threads which have not received a reply. Perhaps the check should be if only the original poster posted in the thread, as posters sometimes get impatient and post a second post - which sadly will also lead to more people ignoring it, as the thread is not considered "unreplied to " anymore.
Originally posted by Opium
The only thing that bothers me is that a thread about "Homosexuals" get over 400 replys and the thread starter is someone who's favored or shall I say been here a while. Than others who just came on or aren't favored tend to get 5 to 8 replys the most and really don't get much advice.
Posters tend to gravitate towards the controversial and emotional threads that generate a lot of disagreement and excitement.
And the funny thing about the specific above thread what that nothing was solved.
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