[joyous205]

desperate housewife need help! My husband and I have been together for 13 yrs. have 2 beautiful daughters. i've seen that my husband has been frequenting hard core websites almost everyday! I have to bbe more of a 'matlock' type to see what's going on. I don't think he pays for the site because they are all free but I know for a fact that he masturbate when he watches this site. I had confronted him about this but he thinks I'm making a big deal out of nothing. Our sex life is very much alive but he still wants to visit this website. I think this is classified 'emotional infidelity'. What do you think? I need feedback. Haven't really talked to anybody about this issue.

[moimeme]

You are making a big deal about nothing. This is not emotional anything. He's horny, he beats off. He's not in love with the women. He doesn't even desire the women. He looks at some body parts, that makes him horny, and he has a quick one. Men have been doing it from the dawn of time. Before Playboy, it was the underwear section of the Sears Catalogue and National Geographic photos of tribal women. Prior to that, it was drawings of ladies in underwear in black and white in the old newspapers.

Chill. Forget about it. You are going to ruin your relationship over something that doesn't matter.

[scared shy]

Boys will be boys...
I wouldn't consider it to be an emotional anything... he is not sharing his thought or feelings... he is jacking off to dirty pictures, and the more you make out of it the more he will want to. You said you have a very active sex life, so what's the problem? You know he loves you, right? I mean if you do know he loves you, then some dirty porn pictures will not change that, now if you get a 500.00 phone bill from the dirty talk then, that might be pause for concern, not only is he wasting a lot of good money, but I would constitute that has having more potentail for emotional affair, I mean can you really talk dirty for that long? HAHAHA, just kidding. Really though, not to worry, he sounds like the sterotypical guy's guy.

[joyous205]

But I wonder, we sometimes make love 2x a day. Why in the world he still needs to have this 'on the side' rendezvous. You think he can be considered a sex addict? I wonder sometimes.

[moimeme]

No. He's not a sex addict. He has a high sex drive so rather than occupy you all day, he takes some of the pressure off by himself. He's not cheating and he's not bugging you for sex all the time when you have other things to do. So chill.

[Sal Paradise]

I don't see the problem. Guys masturbate, no matter the amount of sex they get. A guy could be married to the most beautiful woman in the world, a woman who is so good in bed that she could stop a mans heart, and he would still be wacking it to porn. Thats what guys do. Don't make a big deal out of it. He's not going to stop all you will do is make him resent you and lie about it. It will only ruin your marriage if you make a big deal about it.

[chaos70]

I certainly mean no offense...but could it be that he is craving some sort of sexual excitement and despite the frequency that it is some sort of fantasy he desires?

[joyous205]

maybe that's why it bothers me. I'm thinking that I'm not fulfilling all his sexual desire. I'm very sexual my self and I almost always loves to experiment. But thanks for all the responds - it actually help me feels better.

[Ladyjane14]

Websites that are voyeuristic in nature are probably not a problem....so long as your husband is still sexually engaged in the marriage.

Websites that are interactive, involving communications with other member are decidedly more problematic.