How long did your divorce process take to finalize?
I am just wondering how long did one's divorce process take?
I guess for mine will be dragging on......We have been separated since end 2003 and he even initiated a anulment petition based on BIG FAT LIES (he was turn around to accuse me when he was at fault as he found new woman) in mid 2004. So I contested it and he withdrew it.
Now, I am preparing to raise petition (mine are true facts) and he is palying hide and seek with me. He never authorised his lawyer to take the service on his behalf. Making things difficult for me. I have to serve him the petition overseas now.
Why is dumper making things difficult for dumpee? I thought he wanted freedom and now I am giving to him but he avoids it.
Every state is different. Mine took me a few days over three months, but that is because you can accellerate things under certain circumstances--adultery being one of them. When I filed in August of 2000, I instructed my attorney to push full steam ahead because I did not want my kids drug through a long process involving court and lost hopes that Mommy and Daddy would get back together.
It got a bit ugly for a while and then I explained that everyone is losing here--me, you, the kids, and our families. The lawyers are the winners.
Much to the chagrin of our attorneys we settled the property crap ourselves. I created an Excel worksheet essentially listing all of our "stuff" with a HIS side and a HER side. We each got a copy and a week to check off what we wanted to take post divorce. It was detailed to pots and pans, etc. I also put a replacement value on each item (not usually used in court but good for us) so we could see what each other was getting in terms of "value" out of the marraige.
After a week, we swapped lists and there were literally only a dozen items that were contested. We talked and explained our reasoning and agreed. We called the attorneys and told them we had the property settlement done and they were madder than a hornet--they would have preferred a court to assign the property.
But I have heard of many going on forever. I hear the actual process of running therough the courts is anywhere from 3 to 6 months in most places but they all have diffreernt requirements before you get there--neeed to be separated for X months, etc.
Mine's still in the process. It's been 3 months so far, but I'm taking my time because I couldnt handle the emotions and think logically. We still have to sell the house, but we're in the process of dividing up the assets right now, and prepare the house to be sold. Our divorce wont be final until a year. Yipee I will always remember the day, since it was valentines. Atleast every valentines day after will be SOOOOO much better, even if i'm eating kraft dinner in front of the tv watching sad girly movies
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Because we had a teenage daughter, it was recommended that we separate legally for a period of two years to be sure there was no chance of reconciliation.
We were to live separate and apart, but if at any time during that 24-month period we were to have sexual relations or even spend the night under the same roof, it would be enough grounds for either party to contest the divorce at the final hearing. I even had to bring two witnesses before the Magistrate to testify that there was no evidence of reconciliation.
My lawyer also drafted the contract to read that we were living as individual, separate entities…which means we were permitted to see other people during this time without it being considered 'adultery'.
Our divorce was amicable. There were never any conflicts over property settlement or custody issues. We were very fair and civil with each other. As a matter of fact, we were more cooperative with each other during those two years then we ever were during our fifteen-year marriage. I think we were both ready by that time to just move on.
If it had gone another way, or if either of us truly didn't want the divorce, I'm sure it would have been strung out indefinitely as it often does for many folks.
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It depends on where you live. If you had kids. Community property.
If your exhusband skipped the country, depending on what state you live in, you might be able to get a divorce without his consent. I am in the process of finishing mine because my exhusband is in prison, which happens to be one of the qualifiers that allow me to just divorce him without his consent or signatures or anything. But we didn't own anything together.
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8 Months only because I refused to pay for anything more for that man!
Normally when adultery is the causative factor it would have been done immediately! Normally 3 months here in Illinois, 6 months when you have kids, homes etc etc!
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Re: How long did your divorce process take to finalize?
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Originally posted by will_woman
I am just wondering how long did one's divorce process take?
Mine took about 14 months. I had filed in South Carolina because Tracy is a SC resident, & to avoid Wisconsin's Community Property laws.
I had decided not to charge her with adultery, & to file on the basis of a year's legal separation. Although it was more protracted, it also avoided a messier (read:costlier) proceeding.
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Mine took 12 months. Should have only taken 3, but we were arguing over bills and things. He wouldn't own up to his bills, so I finally just set a court date and let the judge decide.
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