Can anyone offer some advice? This guy and I started out just being friends. In the meantime we now talk every day, are planning a vacation together, and have even slept in the same bed platonically. He is attentive, sweet, holds my hand and gives other hints that he is interested, but has made no serious move. He is mature, definitely not gay, and goal-focused. Most friends tell me he is probably interested, but waiting for the right situation. They also say he wouldn't be going on a vacation and spending so much time with me if he wasnt interested. He has shared so much with me in conversation as I have with him. As you can guess, I am crazy about him but am afraid that if I bring up the subject of a next move, he will back off. How about some objective opinions?
I agree. Something's up. An interested guy sleeping in the same bed with you and nothing happened? Did you let him know you were open to him? Either he has will power made of steel or you are in the friends category. You don't want to ask him because he might back off. Are you willing to settle for things as they are? This maybe what you have to do if the two if you can't get on the same page. I say take a chance. Make sure he knows you are INTERESTED. If he doesn't reciprocate then you have to decide if you can live with being friends...
Let me guess: he is a passionate, energetic, very sexual and cheerful guy who is a magnet for women. He loves women and loves every part of their bodies. He enjoys female company and is surrounded mostly by women (has more female than male friends).
Marshbear - You are on the right track. I am afraid to take the next step, afraid of the possibility of rejection. Its just that the signals get mixed up and I'm not sure where we stand. Actually, we are taking a vacation together to a romantic place. I think I just have to wait and see what happens then.
This may sound a bit high school-ish, but do both of you have a mutual friend that could ask him about his feelings for you? It might avoid potential awkwardness if someone else just went up and said "Hey, what do you think of her? Are you guys an item? Would you like to be?" Maybe that's not the best way to handle it but just and idea. Cheers and best of luck in love!
Ok, YOU need to make a move if you ike him. If he seems so interested but havent made a move then hes probably afraid of rejection too. Kiss him. But i have to say it IS abit weird oyu slept in the same bed but he didnt try anything on
Originally posted by Jadey
Ok, YOU need to make a move if you ike him. If he seems so interested but havent made a move then hes probably afraid of rejection too. Kiss him. But i have to say it IS abit weird oyu slept in the same bed but he didnt try anything on
I agree. Next time he's standing with his back to you walk up behind him, run a finger down the nape of his neck, follow up with a kiss in the same place then walk away. Or run, if you want to spice it up a bit
Originally posted by RecordProducer
Let me guess: he is a passionate, energetic, very sexual and cheerful guy who is a magnet for women. He loves women and loves every part of their bodies. He enjoys female company and is surrounded mostly by women (has more female than male friends).
Where are you going with this, RP? I'm kinda curious...
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I get the feeling he has grown to like you much more than a friend and maybe is planning to surprise you on the vacation that you two are planning. I wouldn't make a move just yet because if this is the case, you'll just end up ruining everything. A lot of guys still like to do the chasing even though some may not show much of it. So wait and see what happens. And if nothing happens - though it's difficult to imagine why nothing would happen - then feel free to make the move. And if nothing happens here, then move on.
I wouldn't sweat this... about a year ago I was seeing a girl and she wasn't entirely comfortable with making things between us completetly physical. I was patient and shared a bed with her a number of times with no physical intimacy. Of course, that changed within a couple of weeks...
Where are you going with this, RP? I'm kinda curious...
ROTFL!! Are you that naïve, RR? Next she'll ask if he likes decorating and musicals LOL.
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