[Jabelamb]

Ok this is the first time I have posted anything so bear with me and my big dilemma. I am married and have 3 children husband won't do much for me, we both work full time but help at home is not there. He is a couch potato,anyhow here is my problem his best friend also my good friend and I have been having an affair for almost 7 months now. I feel guilty about this but his friend will do anything for me and has always been there for me. My problem is that I think I am in too deep and do not know how to stop this affair, without hurting anyone. We have been friends for 10 years now and I don't want to loose that part of our relationship. Has anyone ever been in this kind of situation and what do I do, also I forgot to mention he is also our roommate. I do love my husband but I do not think I am in love with him anymore and have told him this we have been trying to work on our marriage but it is hard when I have feelings for someone else. Please help me

[Merin]

It isn't possible for this to NOT hurt someone... actually everyone involved is going to get hurt eventually.

My advice is to come clean with your husband... eventually he is going to find out, and IMO it would be better to be upfront about it now then to be caught at it later.

This isn't fair to your husband... you're taking away his choice to even stay in the marriage OR even to try and make things right for the 2 of you...