[pisces76]

This is the first time I have ever logged into a chat room. The reason I am doing it is because I have never been so confused in my life. I recently was married about 8 months ago. To someone that I had been dating for over 5 years. I thought I knew him really well. I knew that there one was thing that he did like to do when given the chance was gambling. He has only been to Vegas a handful of times but when he goes he lights up like a xmas tree. He also enjoys betting on horses and football game. This is something that I always new about and he did more frequently when we were right out of college. But he still would go to the derby every year and participate in a super bowl bet.

Well it was not until recently that I found out he had serious debt. What I thought was $16,000 in credit card debt turns out to be $30,000. When I asked why he lied to me he said that he was embarrassed and did not want to upset me before our wedding. What he tried to do is basically tried to get rid of it and in turn pretty much doubled it. He promised me that he would take care of it and that he would not lie again. So I want to believe him...

One month after this we both new in the back of our minds that they his company was going to Vegas for a trip that was a reward to the sales reps for meeting their quota. Knowing this I tried to be straight forward and tell him that i feel he deserves this trip and i want to have fun. But lets agree on an amount that we both feel comfortable with for gambling money. So we both said $1000....and everything was fine he went and had fun. Admitted that he did not win and then told me that he lost $1100. Okay, I was fine with that and did not want to be a nagging wife and did not ask anymore questions.

This morning driving to work I just had this feeling that he was not being truthful. So I decided to text message him out of the blue and ask him to tell me really how much did he lose. He calls me right away and asks why...he then admits that he lost $2500. I haven't talked to him since. I am so sick to my stomach about this whole ordeal. He is a wonderful man and I really love him. He works extremely hard and does well. But I cannot handle the idea of dishonesty. What do I do? Do I get out? So confused.