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I need some advice concerning interracial dating. I would like to provide a brief dating history, along with some family background of both myself, and the women I've dated. I feel this is relevant to the problem I am currently having.

I live in San Antonio, TX. My mother's grandparents were immigrants from France, Holland, and England. My father's grandparents were immigrants from Sweden, mostly. When I was nineteen and in college, I started dating a younger girl (I'll call her Jessica.) She was seventeen. Jessica's grandparents were both immigrants from Mexico.

When that relationship ended, I started dating a girl (I'll call her Linda) who was a freshman in college. Her whole family was from Ecuador, but her father died tragically, and her mother remarried an American, so they all moved here. Her father's parents were from Spain, and England. I think that Linda's mother was a native of Ecuador.

A year ago, I broke up with Linda, because I realized that I had serious feelings for another girl. (I'll call her Tina.) Tina is a very cute blonde girl with blue eyes. I think it's safe to say that her family is from Northern Europe.

Unfortunately, that relationship never got off the ground. Since then I dated two other girls, but only briefly. One white chick, and another chick from Puerto Rico.

I have noticed that every one of my relationships with women who had some kind of Latin heritage were very sexually charged. But most of the few relationships that I have had with white girls, while fleeting, still seemed to be much more emotionally, intellectually, and spiritually deep.

This fact leads me to question if I am lacking some fundamental communication or social skill to hook up with white women. I'm sorry to be crass here, or whatever, but that's basically what my problem seems to come down to.

I've lived here in San Antonio now for fifteen years, that's my entire adult life. I live in an area of the United States that is on the fringes of what could be called, "White America." Before you judge me for using racist terminology, and broad generalizations and whatnot, please hear me out. If I fly to Denver, or to Dallas, or to Seattle, San Francisco or Atlanta, I see an obvious and marked difference between these major cities, and San Antonio. Those other cities, for all intents and purposes, are all white. San Antonio is demographically over 50% Hispanic. Heck, even if I drive 70 miles north to Austin, I notice a significant change in the racial demography.

Because I live in this area of the US, I believe that I have had much less chance to be socialized with girls who have similar ethnic backgrounds as myself. This means that I am not as successful in my relationships with white girls as I am in my relationships with Hispanic girls. Why is this? Is it because there is a fundamental difference in the way that white women want to be approached by men, from the way that Hispanic women want to be approached by men? I believe that there is.

Am I racist for believing this? I don't think that I am. In any case, I have come to the realization that, except for flings and whatnot, I want to date white girls exclusively from now on. Why? Because, for one thing, I've noticed that the feelings I seem to have for the Hispanic girls are not as strong as the feelings that I've had for white girls.

So, does anyone have any feedback on this issue? I hope I've explained my feelings sufficiently.