[Angeleyez2583]

Ok so I officially joined the band waggon of the readers of He's Just Not That Into You by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo (I'm in college and I don't want to get in trouble for plagerism :-)). The book is very well written from a guys point of view. I recommend this book to any girl who is confused about what the deal is with guys in every aspect. So anyway, there is one section in there about exes. So here is what it says, words to live by, I just couldn't put them into my own words: You can not talk your way out of a breakup. In otherwords, don't beg him back! Relationships are not based upon democracies. If you have breakup sex with your ex, it still means you guys are broken up (unless otherwise said from the guy's mouth). Importantly CUT HIM OFF and let him miss you. Let him realize what he is missing. Don't remind him how great of a person you are. Don't suck up to the ex by doing various things for him. Be "Classy". In otherwords, when you see him, act like he is not part of your world. No matter how hurt you may be, act happy around him like you have a lot going on in your life.

And another important thing "There's going to be a guy out there who's going to be really happen that you didn't get back together with your crappy ex-boyfriend."

If a guy really wants to get back together with you, he's going to do it on his own terms. He will let you know, and do anything in his power to accomplish it (calling you on the phone and telling you he misses you and wants to be with you again, telling you in person, etc).

I guess what the book is saying is guys are not as complicated as a lot of girls make them out to be. Lol.

It's hard for me to let my ex go, but I now realize the flirting has got to stop. This is disrespectful to me, almost as if he's leading me around on a leash and dragging me through the mud. Especially after him getting jealous about me making a comment about our mutual friend. He sucks, and I am not going to over analyze anything anymore. He broke up with me, and I need to be the one in absolute control over this situation. If he wants to come back to me, he'll let me know.

[Donut]

I love that book.

Wish I had of got it before my break-up, I wouldn't have made such an ass of myself!

Oh well, it'll help me for the future.

[Fallen_Angel]

I bought the book a few months ago because I LOVE Sex and the City and really enjoyed the episode where that line first became popular. Miranda was walking around like she had just figured out the meaning of life - it was hysterical!

Now I find myself poring over certain chapters (ie. breakup & marriage) to ease my pain a little. I know a lot of people think the book is a lot of bs, but I think it's a lot more honest & realistic than some of the other relationship books out there. I'll be the first to admit it hurts like hell to think there's someone else out there for me when I still really love my ex - I thought he and I had something really special. C'est la vie, I guess.

[Gottabestrong]

I love that book too. Bought it in November when the breakup was still fresh between us. The part about breaking up really helped me to stay strong and not ask him for a second chance.