I had sex on first date, is it doomed to never progress
Ok I need some advice, I have just had the most wonderful weekend I’ve ever had with this amazing girl. I was fooling around Friday night on a dating website, and hooked up online with her. We were both drunk, but she was fooling around undressing down to her underwear. We met at 3am online and were on webcam and telephone until 8am. I arranged to drive to her house 50 miles away and bring her back to mine the following evening and take her to a party.
We did this, and there was an instant attraction and we were all over each other and had drunken sex that evening, but had great sex in the morning. We then spent the Sunday together, she had a bath at mine in the afternoon, then we went shopping park and we were showing public displays of affection to one another, then went for a meal.
After the meal we were extremely passionate again in the car, but didn’t have sex. I drove her home and got her home for 9pm that nite (we spent a full 24 hours together). She said we’d meet online later, but when I got in she was back on the dating site, but didn’t log into messenger, where we were supposed to be camming and sending pics. Now its Monday night, and I sent her a text at 7.20pm “hi, how are you today, did you catch up on your sleep? I got lost driving home last night and didn’t get home until 10.30” and there has been no reply.
Its now 9.45pm and I don’t know what to do I want to call her but I can’t now cos I sent the text. She was very “planning forward” and saying we’d do this and do that in the future, but now I’m in a mess thinking it was all too good to be true. Help!!!!
She may have just wanted a quick hookup, no strings, despite what she said. I know you had a great (hopefully safe) time, but do your best not to obsess about it too much. Leave the ball in her court. If she's interested in something more, she'll contact you. And if not... hey, you have the memories of a night of great sex and a fun 24 hours that didn't require much effort on your part.
I realize you know this already, but she's not obligated to call you just because you slept together.
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cheers reservoir, i'm just so in a daze still about it all, she was amazing. she did say she had loads of assignments to do this week and maybe wants to just get on with them,
i've just spotted that she's left her zip-up boots here!
we did say we'd meet wednesday - but we didnt make any concrete plans, maybe i am being a bit over eager here and should just wait to se what happens, it is still barely 24 hours ago that i saw her last
You've technically only know this girl for one day, so you can't really expect her to prioritize you. I wouldn't say necessarily that just because you had sex on the first date nothing can come of your relationship, but I'd say take it carefully from here.
thanks chariot, she does have a lot of other things to take care of as well,
as she has a lot of friends, 3 children of 10, 5 and 4, plus she has a stack of assignments to get through as well, maybe i am just being too keen and want it to still be the weekend because its still only monday, she said she does want to meet again, and i'll just forget about it now unless she contacts me. she did leave her boots here, she might want them back. it was a fantastic weekend, hopefully she thought the same - she must have done (musn't she?) seeing as how she had sex with me
Ditto what reservoirdog said. I wouldn't expect an immediate reply this early on. Definitely don't call right now, and just wait it out a few days to see what she does. I've tried dating sites myself in the past and it's not uncommon for things to flare up and fizzle out more quickly than when meeting people in real life. Not that it's bad to meet them online, necessarily, just that it can sometimes be an accelerated process.
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I don't think you were wrong to send the text message. But her non-response was a clear signal. It's pretty lame of her to pretend nothing happened. She could be honest with you. But you're better off not expecting it. Or anything else.
I hope you didn't fall for her.
If nothing else, she'll be searching for her boots. And if she doesn't, then you have some nice boots to give your next girlfriend for Christmas.
She always has the weekends free because the ex-husband (well soon to be) has them at the weekends, and if its not him, its someone else as she has stacks of friends and good parents. What did the poster who says "and you worry about whether she'll call" mean in the context of this?
sorry for just saying "the poster" then, sometimes you forget who it was when you get to this screen to type a reply, thanks for the feedback moimeme - its cos if you go back to the screen, you lose what youve just typed.
well i have just received a reply to my text:-
"hi im well the children are all sick.... did not poison them honest...... ha ha x"
i'm so glad she put the "x" at the end, thats a kiss in case the people in USA and Canada didnt know.
this is maybe evidence of me being so eager, and worryin too much - i'm just so glad she has replied, i know the text doesnt exactly illicit a reponse but a friend and colleague has just said that its a good sign she has replied, irrespective of whether it illicits a response from me. i guess i should leave it a while now before replying.
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