Saw my ex yesterday and it was only the second time I have seen her since we broke up almost 2 months ago. I went down to the park with some friends to play ball and she was down there, it made me really uncomfortable and I didn't know what to do but I stayed and played ball and didn't even let it bother me. We didn't talk. I totally forgot all about seeing her becuase last night I had a bunch of people over and one is a girl I really like and am talking to. But just a little bit ago today she called and I didn't answer it cause I was on the phone but she left a voice mail and said she was sorry for not talking to me yesterday and she felt really bad and she really would appreciate it if I called her to talk if I wanted. I doubt I will, but what do you all think?
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Well I went to a party last night and around 1 this morning my ex calls again! I was on the phone so after I got off I called her back. She was trying to be real friendly and we talked a bit then I told her I was going to get off after a few minutes. She texted me a little bit after that and said she never pictured things like this so I called her back to find out what she was talking about. I talked to her for a bit in between talking to all my friends at the party. Her and her roomate were wanting to know who was there but I wouldn't tell them, but I know my ex could hear all the girls I was talking to and was really interested. I ended up talking to her roomate for a little bit then she gave the phone back to my ex and I told her I was going to go again and we got off. But get this...today she calls and she wants to know why I changed and she told me who I was now was the guy she fell in love with and why wasn't I like that when we went out. She said I was the first few months but things changed, and I agreed with her and told her she did to and she agreed but we never could come up with any reasons why. She was being super nice but I had stuff to do so I told her I asked if she wanted to call me in an hour or so. She did and we talked awhile longer, but it was just about how i've been and she's been and different stuff she has heard. She was going to lunch with her friends so I told her I would let her go and we got off. Sudden change of events..have been in no contact for the past month and now all this, need advice.
Well, I think in order to give you advice, we need to know what you want. Do you want her back or were you doing fine without her? Is it worth it, or are you moving on? Let us know how you feel about her and what you want!
lol agreed longhorn! evverybody I know who has had a break up has had the option of trying again and have so successfully. No such luck for me, when I am dumped I AM DUMPED!
trust me you'd rather be dumped then get mixed signals. after 3 days of strict NC, my ex went really crazy. I invite her to hang out, she comes over, we make out again. She tells me the next day that she really wants to *have sex* with me. She then tells me she wishes she was over at my place with me. Then she starts sending me casual text messages about how her sunglasses are broken, and then that her internet is down. I don't really know what the hell is up. I know what i'm not going to do, and that is I'm not going to bring up ANY relationship talk whatsoever. I'm cautiously optimistic, and I'm going to approach the situation as if I've moved on.
I don't know what I think about her, I have been doing great without her but I would probably do great with her too, it wouldn't matter I am not going to rely on people to make me happy anymore becuase in the end you will just get your heart broke. I really don't know what to do, what do you all think? She is being super nice, telling me she is sorry for almost anything small and insignificant..sounds like she really misses me and i'm so confused.
I don't know how much would you like this suggestion , but I would like you to be upfront.
This time when she ask you to talk to her, you say clearly that look we have broken up and so talking to you is not helping me much to move on. But I was always having great time when we were together , so if you are really serious this time to go back into that we can start talking. You can also say that it would be difficult to be friend or anything else to her rather than her bf. If you have any other issues from the past you can say that too.
Give her some time to think and ask her to call back and tell you what she thinks. If she says YES then you know it...if NO then well you are already on the way.
The only way this suggestion will help is to get you out of the dilemma.
We talked for two hours tonight, she told me about how much she has thought about me and wish things could have been different and that she was sorry for things she had done and that she said I was better off without her and I told her that she is better off without me too and she said no she isn't. I asked her what she meant, and she said sometimes she is happy but sometimes she ain't. She realizes what she gave up. She was super nice again and we talked about so much. We would have talked more but her roomate was there so we got off after 2 hours. Wow this is crazy, what do I do...need a lot of advice and opinions!
Honestly I think you should get back with her.. Just tell her straight up that if she is serious then to think about it and get in touch with you once she has made her mind up.. At least find out what the hell is going on.. So if she says she doesnt want to be together big deal you are most of the way on to recovery anyways so just pick up to where you are now right ? No big deal.. Give it another try though.. Whats the worst that could happen ??
She called me this morning and we talked for like 30 minutes about different stuff. Then she asked me if i've thought about her any since we been broke up and I told her I had some, she told me she thought about me a lot. But i'm not sure wether she just wants to be friends or wants to start talking again. She had to go to class so we got off but I called her back a few minutes later and we laughed and talked a little more while she was on her way and she thought about skipping but I told her to go..then I told her I had a reason to call and she asked what it was and I told her it was difficult to be her friend...she paused for a minute then said ok. I told her that wasn't all I wanted to say but couldn't find any words to say and she told me to think about it and she would call me after the class...and I told her to think about it, she said ok and we got off. I don't know what to say when she calls back? Please help.
Ok well she called back and she was really down and depressed becuase I had told her it was difficult to be her friend. We got talking and I told her that I wasn't saying I liked her or that I would even go back out with her but I just wanted to know if talking would go anywhere or if she could ever see us together and I wanted her to think about it and I would respect however she felt. I told her that it would be fun to get to know her again and we laughed and talked about a few other things. I told her to have a good day and she said she would definantly think about things and get back with me, I told her to take her time and then we laughed and got off. Now either way, I know I will be fine and i'm glad I put it out on the table, things look good right?
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, but this is what getting dumped means .
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