Advice on "dating" multiple people before you become exclusive
Hi,
I met a beautiful woman over the internet and we have been talking for almost 2 months via email and chat. She is in another country and I am attracted to her.
I have also been a member of a local dating service and met someone locally about 2 months ago. She is also very beautiful and very nice to talk to. We met in February, but didn't go on our first date until last week.
Usually my dates/relationships from dating services don't work out so I have tried to meet lots of people at the same time.
But soon I would like to choose between one of these women. I am wondering how far I should take things. What is expected? I would not feel comfortable making out with someone while talking romantically with another girlfriend. But how can I keep the intimacy from growing in the relationship too much before I have committed? I usually have a hard time meeting women and I've never been "dating" two people at the same time.
forget the one in the other country mate, please! LDR's just do not work out, sorry - but they dont. they certainly won't if its from a dating site either. this online dating thing is EXTREMELY fickle, and just DO NOT go there if its an online LDR!!!!!!!!!
Some people who met at a distance have married. There is no single rule to follow. Try it and see. Spend enough time communicating with each to figure out which you'd prefer.
yeah but he'll be communicating online for weeks if not months or even years maybe before he meets her in the flesh (which is always a completely different ball game to communicating online), nope sorry - just how many success stories have you heard moime in comparison to the failed ones? nah - big no-no
Originally posted by miggsbucks
come on alpha u meanie he did put dating in inverted commas!! bloody hell, this is supposed to be a compassionate site
It is not an issue at this point in time. If he meets the woman in the other country and starts really dating her and continues to date the one he met last wk then the questioon would be valid a few months down the road.
He has put the cart before the horse, so to speak.
yeah i must admit, he doesnt really have a dilemma yet, ive been thru loadsa crap me, and that, to be honest does not seem like crap.. its like he's trying to predict the crap he'll go thru before he goes thru it, thats why i told him to bin the LDR if he wants to be pro-active, which is what he is trying to be - from his original post, still thought ur coment was a bit shady mate as it made him out to look like an ass when he was only asking for advice lol
Last edited by miggsbucks; 4th April 2005 at 11:15 PM..
Reason: wanted to replace the **** with "crap" lol
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