[eileen42]

Okay, my guy and I have been together about 6 or 7 months. He is 25 and I am 24. He and 8 of his coworkers are planning a trip to Las Vegas in May. They are all 21-30 yrs old and good friends. I want him to go and have a blast, but I have concerns. I trust him, however, I don’t know if I trust him with these guys. They all drink heavily and use illegal drugs for “partying”. To make matters worse, I know that last time they went (before my boyfriend worked there) they bought “escorts” in Vegas and had a drug/sex show binge party on more than one night.

My guy likes to party hard as well, and I am concerned because often when he drinks a lot he doesn’t remember anything he did the next morning. I have witnessed this MANY times. I’m afraid that the guy group mentality will take over and he’ll do something he wouldn’t normally do…and then he wouldn’t even remember it the next day. I would never be any wiser. I already have trust issues and this scenario is killing me. That whole group embraces the “What happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas” mentality.

What should I do? Tell him I don’t want him to go? I don’t want to be a controlling girlfriend and ruin his fun. But we haven’t even taken a vacation together and since we’ve been together he has gone to Cancun, Utah for snowboarding, and now Vegas with his boys. Any suggestions?

[laRubiaBonita]

what ever you decide, you will be miserable, and i bet he will shoot down your decision if it involves him NOT going or you coming too.

why not give him a disposable camera, so he can take pics for you? at least you would have some insight as to what may have gone on there.

I really do not feel i would have the "authority" to say that to my bf of only 7 months.

[alphamale]

Originally posted by eileen42
Any suggestions?

yes, plan your own trip to Vegas with the girls.

[eileen42]

This is the other thing that compliactes the situation, when they first started planning the Vegas trip he mentioned it to me one night. He had been drinking a lot (no big surprise) and I guess he was feeling really "lovey" or something because he told me that he was bringing me with him, and the other guys were bringing their girls too. He hasn't mentioned it since and I'm assuming it was one of those nights that he doesn't really remember bc of all the alcohol.

I don't want to have to say, "Honey, remember that night 2 months ago when you told me you guys were bringing your gfs with you?" Because I'm almost certain he'll have no clue what I'm talking about. Arg.

[gwennebe]

He sounds like one of my exes when he went. I know he probably hooked up with someone but he'll deny it to this day and he wasn't even around guys like that. I say dump him before he goes. Then go out and have sex with someone while he's gone and start dating hijm again when he returns. lol. just kidding.

This is a tough one. You are going to have to just trust your instincts and hope for the best. I wouldn't bring it up about you going however. Don't let him think it bothers you because if you act like you don't care it will bother him that you don't care "he's probably expecting you to throw a big fit about it" If you don't then he will have less of an urge to cheat cause he will have no reason to.