[eileen42]

Okay, my guy and I have been together about 6 or 7 months. He is 25 and I am 24. He and 8 of his coworkers are planning a trip to Las Vegas in May. They are all 21-30 yrs old and good friends. I want him to go and have a blast, but I have concerns. I trust him, however, I don’t know if I trust him with these guys. They all drink heavily and use illegal drugs for “partying”. To make matters worse, I know that last time they went (before my boyfriend worked there) they bought “escorts” in Vegas and had a drug/sex show binge party on more than one night.

My guy likes to party hard as well, and I am concerned because often when he drinks a lot he doesn’t remember anything he did the next morning. I have witnessed this MANY times. I’m afraid that the guy group mentality will take over and he’ll do something he wouldn’t normally do…and then he wouldn’t even remember it the next day. I would never be any wiser. I already have trust issues and this scenario is killing me. That whole group embraces the “What happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas” mentality.

What should I do? Tell him I don’t want him to go? I don’t want to be a controlling girlfriend and ruin his fun. But we haven’t even taken a vacation together and since we’ve been together he has gone to Cancun, Utah for snowboarding, and now Vegas with his boys. Any suggestions?