I have been reading a lot of posts of people giving advice on not to marry right after high school. I agree with this 100% but when is the right age to get married. I actually read a study that said that people that get married before the age of 25 have an 80% chance of getting divorced then those that get married after 25.
I just wonder from other peoples experiences what is a good age. I know that an individuals frontal lobes aren't fully developed til after 25, so a person changes lot before that age. I am just hurt by the fact that my ex wanted to marry me and then broke up with me, and I think maybe it is just his age. My dad says wait til I am 30.
Wait until you find someone without whom your life will be bleak. It could come when you're 27 or when you're 42 but you must never settle for less just because you hit a certain age.
I feel like anyone in the teens to 20 should not be married, Marriage is not a goo goo gaa gaa game and I think young adults of this age think that way ... It just ends in heartache...
I think you marry when the perfect person for you comes along .. (that being after the ages I stated) ... A good age though ... since were asking for age brackets ... My opinion .. late 20's - early 30's.
Maybe it had more to do with his maturity than his age. My personal opinion is that a good age to consider marriage is after around 24 or 25 -- live a couple of years after college, work, and have some experiences and responsibilities as a single person, then think about marriage. I think its important for people to be self-sufficient and learn that they can take care of themselves.
Really, there is no age that dictates that. I've used the mid-twenties as a guideline all my life and darn if I didn't meet and marry my husband when in my mid-20's! (He was in his 30's, but maturity wise, well.... )
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I have to agree with Hokey on this one. I am 25 and my fiance is 31. We get along swimmingly, and therefore it is right for us. I really think tho that it is pretty much situation specific, in that based on different ages, maturity, and compatibility, things may be different. I have had friends marry the summer after high school, I have had friends marry in their 30s and 40s, and friends marry in between. I have seen relationships strive and seen some fail, all based on the points I listed above, but, I think that with a little work, anything can survive. The way I see it, if the decision makes a person happy, who are any of us to put it down? If it feels right, do it!
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I think it depends on the person. The good part about doing it when your young is your typically more open to change. I am in my 30's and if I ever get married I will constantly struggle with the fact I have had to make no compromise since I was 15 and sent off to live at school. I want things done my way and I control it all. It's a big issue for me, now that I spend quite a bit of time with my BF.
Some people get married when they are 18 and it's great. They've dreamed of it their whole lives, it's all they wanted to be since they were young, a wife and mother. Other people wants a career, a home, a masters or a PhD before they consider marraige or children. And some people never want it, it holds them back from what they really enjoy and and want to acheive.
I can't relate to anyone who gets married out of high school and feels like they have done all they wanted. But my point is that everyone is different and we all want different things. I personally feel you should have financial stability and independence established for a few years, indicating you are responsible, because marriage is an ever greater responsibilty.
I read a news article where a women got married for a first at the age of 87 years. And I know someone who did it at 55 years of age. As well as 17 ny choice. To each their own.......
I want things done my way and I control it all. It's a big issue for me, now that I spend quite a bit of time with my BF.
I know a lot of women like that. It mystifies me how someone could love having things 'their way' more than having someone around that they love. If anyone can explain it, I'd be grateful.
Originally posted by moimeme
It mystifies me how someone could love having things 'their way' more than having someone around that they love. If anyone can explain it, I'd be grateful.
Because they love in their way. And their way only.
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Now I want to wait until I am like 25 or 26 to move in with him!!!
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