[fyrwyfe]

I have read many of your posts and find it so encouraging that you were able to make your marriages great again. I know each of your circumstances are different, but..... how did you do it? I seen here on LS various posts, perhaps even from you both, about two authors, Harley & Chapman. I've read some of Harley's Basic Concepts online and plan to take his emotional needs questionnaire, but I'm not sure what to do with my husband. He's not a big reader, especially when it's about relationships, so trying to get him to read one of their books won't go over well. He has caused some real problems in our marriage, but he says he wants to work on it & we are seeing a MC - that MC told him he needs to see an IC as well, although he's been poopooing the idea. I just don't feel like I have anything left to give (empty tank), although I do realize I cannot be this way if I want things to get better... In this state, how do I do it? Any advice?

Thanks both (and anyone else who may have something to add...)