After his divorce, do I stand a chance??

Guidette82 · 4th March 2005, 10:40 PM

So, basically...I have been with my boyfriend for 10 months now.....Last year, he FINALLY ended a 5 year marriage..she slept with anyone and everyone..but they had a kid and he loved her and thought she would change..she didn't ..she took every bit of money he had, left him to foreclose on a house and took the kid. ...OUR
PROBLEM:
I really REALLY love this guy...but I can't get him to feel the same way about me. I dated a guy for over a year that sh*tted on me and used all my money, so I KINDA see how he feels..but I am SO good to him. I am kinda scared that he is NEVER gonna feel that way about me...truth is, he got this girl pregnant when he was 20 and they got married...I am his first girlfriend...he doesn't treat me BAD...but in the beginning he was ALLL about me (for a month or two)...now, he says "lemme call you back and never does"...it's like I think about him 24/7 and want to call him all the time and he doesn't. He waits til he gets home from work, takes a shower, eats dinner..THEN calls....on the 45 minute ride home, why not call me?
Honestly, I am what some consider needy...but not of attention...more like affection. I don't feel 100% secure and don't know what to do. I know he isn't cheating or lying...but how do I know if he is ever gonna REALLY care about me??????

Hund1976 · 4th March 2005, 10:51 PM

You don't know. You have to decide whether you want to wait and see if he comes around or cut your losses now.

Guidette82 · 4th March 2005, 10:57 PM

To be honest, right after New Years we broke up b/c he was SO stressed out...two weeks later he said he missed me and just needed time to clear his head...so we got back together....I'm just scared at this point!

Hund1976 · 4th March 2005, 11:04 PM

He sounds pretty wishy-washy and doesn't know what he wants. he could come around or he might not. You really can't tell, you either have to stay and play the game or take your ball and go home. If its hurting you too much to be with him and not know then you should probably break up for your own good. But if you can deal with it then you could try to stick around and see what happens.