Hi everyone. I have a question about sexuality and I'm wondering if someone could help.

I have an amazing boyfriend right now but recently, he confessed to me that when he was in college, (he's now 38), he received a blowjob from another man inside a public bathroom.

He's told me that he allowed the man to do this to him because he was experimenting at that
time. And, he said that since this incident, he's never had a blowjob from another guy again or has engaged in sex with another man.

My question is this - is my boyfriend a bisexual and second, if this is his past, is it possible for him to carry a monogamous, heterosexual relationship with a woman for the rest of his life?

My boyfriend says that he cannot imagine himself marrying a man because they don't give him the satisfaction he gets from women but somehow, I wonder if he'll be able to stay with me without straying with another guy or finding him irresistible.

Please help...

[moimeme]

And, he said that since this incident, he's never had a blowjob from another guy again or has engaged in sex with another man

Why? Because he doesn't want to or because he hasn't had the opportunity?

The person to ask is him, not us. Only he can tell you whether he still wants to experiment or if his experiments proved to him that he's exclusively hetero.

[Israfil]

Originally posted by moongoddess
My question is this - is my boyfriend a bisexual and second, if this is his past, is it possible for him to carry a monogamous, heterosexual relationship with a woman for the rest of his life?

My boyfriend says that he cannot imagine himself marrying a man because they don't give him the satisfaction he gets from women but somehow, I wonder if he'll be able to stay with me without straying with another guy or finding him irresistible.

Yes, it IS possible for him to carry on a monogamous, heterosexual relationship with you. Think of it this way, if he were 100% straight, would you be asking the same question? If people want to stray from relationships, they will stray whether they are straight, bi, or gay. If he is 100% committed to you, take his word for it.

As for his sexuality, this is a question that he will have to answer for himself. Many people find this hard to grapple with, especially considering societal biases against bi and gay people. However, I feel that is is more important for you to ask yourself these questions:

"Knowing what I know, am I comfortable being with a man who has had sexual experiences with another man? Am I willing to fully trust him?"

Hope this helps.

Isra