[lostinlove0479]

I've been seeing this guy exclusively for the past 7 months. We work for the same company and have seen eachother all the time since we've started dating. Our relationship has been really stress free. We enjoy eachother's company, have fun together, I mean everything has been great. Until, about 2 wks. ago. He switched positions which now has him working at night. We don't see eachother anymore at work. And this has been a major adjustment for me. On top of that, we haven't really spoken in the past 2 wks and his text messages dwindled to nothing a wk ago. Last Thursday, he sent me a text saying not to message him or call b/c his phone was acting up. Friday, Saturday and Sunday....no calls, no texts. I didn't know what was going on and I was clueless. Monday afternoon he sent me a message saying that he apologized for not talking to me but he had some tax issues going on and b/t that and working crazy hours at night, he just hadn't felt like his normal self and didn't want to talk. He assured me in the message that it had nothing to do with me, just that he needed his space/time to his self. I sent him a message back saying that it really hurt my feelings that he didn't let me know what was going on and that I never would've done such a thing to him. I told him that out of all the people in the world I always want to talk to him b/c he's the only person who makes me feel good like that. I also told him that I was sorry that I wasn't that person for him. He replied back saying that it wasn't that I wasn't that person for him it's just that when he has personal issues going on he doesn't talk to anybody about them. I let him know that I hope everything works out and I'd give him his time to handle his business. I saw him last night at work b/c I was there late. We talked like everything was okay and he said he missed me. But, I still haven't heard from him today. I mean, I miss him sooo much that it almost hurt to look at him last night.

HELP!! Can someone please tell me is this normal for a man to just go in his shell while leaving his woman on the shelf to be patient and understanding?? Is it possible for a man to not talk to his love b/c he has issues going on? I'm trying to just be patient and take all the eggs that I had put in his basket out and spread them around to other guys. But, I really don't wanna...any advice is appreciated. I miss him so much. This is just not like him. Well, at least this is a side of him that's new to me. I keep thinking that everyone operates differently and handles things differently. But, why can't he at least pick up a phone and say Hi. Don't just cut all communication but make me think it's not personal. It feels so personal. I'm so sad...Help...please!