[GreenCap]

There are many threads here where the ex breaks NC and comes back for second chances...where's mine? Well, she got engaged to her boss' boss that's what!

Why do I want my ex to come back? Can I still trust her? If I don't trust her can I still love her? I do know she was my soulmate (I used past tense coz she is no longer with me). Why doesn't she love me anymore? I know she gradually fell out of love but what was the turning point? I am jealous she is engaged already when I put a deposit down on the ring to proposed this past xmas.

And what do I do if she calls? Gradually, she will have no power over me!

[hurtingandconfused]

There are many threads here where the ex breaks NC and comes back for second chances...

That's probably in a different board in a different site.

Why do I want my ex to come back?

You want what you cannot have. Also, she left you which lowers your self-esteem.

Can I still trust her?

It's over, there is no more trust.

If I don't trust her can I still love her?

It's highly possible.

I do know she was my soulmate

It's impossible for that to be true.

Why doesn't she love me anymore?

Feeling change.(not intentionally.)

I know she gradually fell out of love but what was the turning point?

You will find a new love.

And what do I do if she calls?

If she calls she will do it out of guilt . Do not pick up the phone.

[moon]

GreenCap,

I am sorry but I have read some of your posts about your ex and she sounds like a complete insensitive b*tch.

I don't know if this will make you feel better. By the way do you live in a big city? You can't be living in the country with this type of ex. I don't know anybody who is having an affair with their boss, dumping exs cold and turning down marriage invitations. Your ex sounds like a gold digger/fortune hunter. She sounds like the type of girl who would have loved the TV show Dynasty and maybe Joan Collins was her hero. Is she a fan of soap operas?

Sorry you are hurting so much over this girl. She sounds like she REALLY did a number on you. Hopefully her boss' boss will turn gay or something like that. My ex dumped me for somebody else too (I've told my story many times here), but I never trusted him much anyway.......so it won't be such a big loss in the future once I get over it. You should start looking at it like that too.

I hope I didn't offend you by putting down your ex, but man she sounds like a piece of work. You know sometimes I think there are just two types of people in this world....those that have morals and those that don't (and laugh at the thought of having them). I know my ex falls into the second category....Does yours? Stay away from those types of people. They aren't worth it. They are shallow and get a kick out of hurting other people.....and ONLY feel bad about it when it directly affects them, like when they finally get dumped just as hard.

Take it easy! Engaged? You must really be hurting over this. How are you finding out all this info? Good luck to you.