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Old 16th January 2005, 10:04 AM   #1
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Could he be interested in me,and how can I flirt with him?

I have a thing for this guy which I met this year.We see each other every day and we say hello to each other.We're both on highschool,but in different classes.

I'm really not sure if he's interested in me or not,because sometimes it looks like he's interested and other times it looks like he's not.

Sometimes it looks like he avoids looking at me,when I'm near around,other times I catch him staring at me very often,when I'm not looking.Other times when I look at him,after catching him looking at me with my peripheral vision,he almost immediately looks the other way.
Also,since we met, he only flirted with me very few times,being the last one a few weeks ago.We were having classes next to each other,so when passed me by,when we were already in the block,I ddin't see him coming because I was with my back turned on the stairs and he pinched my waist.
I looked at him very surprised,because I wasn't expecting that and he smiled at me with a naughty smile.
Not much happened since then.

What I'd appreciate is if you could give me some tips on how to improve my relatioship with him,like how to flirt with him.I already have his phone number and he has mine.At thursady we have classes in rooms next to each other,so I think this would be a nice opportunity for me to flirt with him,I just don't know how to start flirting....
Any advice is welcomed!
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Old 16th January 2005, 10:51 AM   #2
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Well I find the best way to get the oppisite sex's attention is to dress in bright red spandex. Always seems to help getting them looknig at me So maybe if you don't wanan go for spandex try some sorta bright clothing so really get his attention, or something kinda sexy, then try and get the courage to say 'hello' and ask him for advice on school work or soemthing, jsut to try and get chatting to him.
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Old 16th January 2005, 10:56 AM   #3
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And I forgot to say he's younger than me.
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Old 16th January 2005, 11:33 AM   #4
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Sounds like he's interested, but afraid to approach you....you can eventually overcome this by getting to know him...but take baby steps and he'll open up.
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Old 20th January 2005, 6:09 AM   #5
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On Monday I sent him a txt messge during classes saying that he looked really cute.Of course after sending that message I avoided looking every time he was around(mostly because I'm sgy and got shy after sending the msg).

He didn't reply to the message(don't know if it was because he hadn't money on the cell phone or because he didn't wanto).Anyway,yesterday,after lunch time I went to a bar to meet up with my female friends and after a while he showed up.I got embarrased because he was the last person I was expecting to show up there,at that time.Well he sitted with his friends on a table not to far from ours.I was with my back turned on him(because I sitted that way when I got there) and my friends were facing him.

After a while,when I turned back,because my friends were pointing to the window,our eyes ran into each other and then he said hey,and I did the same.

My friends who were fancing him,said that he looked many times at me and after a while,when he got up to pay for his drink with his friend,he turned around on the balcon and looked at me.
As he was exiting the bar he looked again.

I don't know what to do,because I'm confused whether he's interested or not.And if he's,why doesn't he approach me more instead of just saying hey?Any advice on this would be really helpful!Thanks!
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Old 24th January 2005, 7:01 PM   #6
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Ok... you have to make a move now... hes shy, and to our suprise most guys are. You have to go up to him now and make a move, and the move can be as innocent as delibretly going up to him and say hey whats up, try raising your eye brows a little, give him a cute little smile... bite your bottom lip even while you smile. just every time you see him in the hallway smile at him... smiling is the key... show him you know how to have some fun. and next time you see him in a public place, dont just turn around, go up to him... start a conversation... u shouldnt have just sat there in the bar with just saying hey... so be brave... guys like confident girls... good luck!
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Old 25th January 2005, 2:25 PM   #7
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Well,he's definately not shy,at least with the girls of his age...
On thursday,I received a few text msgs later at noon,after school with some guy telling me that he was interested in me,etc.I asked him who he was and who gave him my number.He said that the guy who gave him my number was the guy I'm interested on...
So,on Friday night,I sent him a text msg saying:"So,so you're giving out my number...I'll tell ya...kisses",which he replied "I only gave X the number because otherwise he would kill me...lol...I was thinking about somethings but I'll tell ya later...Spicey kisses".
On Monday,I was sitted with a friend on a bench,near the school block he droped his bag on the bench I said hi and he said hello,and went off to play football with a few friends near us.Didn't even mention the msg or what he was thinking of...and he seamed a bit cold with his hello.
Got any ideas/advice?

PS:He's 15
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Old 25th January 2005, 4:12 PM   #8
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wait, you were at a bar with a 15 year old?

okay. forget that.


i think i have some insight here. i grew up with everyone around me being older, so i mostly dated older women. (See the other thread..."Does age matter"...also in this forum)

Frankly, just because a girl thinks im cute, it doesn't mean she's "in my league". There is a perceived stigma about dating younger guys. You need to talk with him! Make him realize you guys are on the same level in terms of maturity, and FOR GODS SAKE, let him know that the age isn't a big deal!!! And compliment him not on his physical attractiveness, but rather his maturity, and how you feel comfortable around him. The key is to acknowledge the age difference conciously with him, and make it seem like its meaningless. Then depending on how shy he actually is, you STILL might need to make the first move!


Good luck!
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