[corrinebean]

I need some advice and encouragement from women who have been in this position before...
I have a tendency of sleepign with a lot of guys, guys that I've just met. I really don't want to do that, but I talk myself into it as soon as things start happening...telling myself that it's ok, as long as I'm having a good time it doesn't matter, but it does, because I feel ashamed and disappointed afterwards.

Last night...I slept with a guy I had met at a bar, and we weren't safe. I had drank a lot, and wasn't thinking. That's the first time I've ever done anything and not been safe, and I'm freaked out by that and really, really disappointed in myself. I don't want advice or judgment about what I should do at this point to make sure everything's ok after last night, I know about that, but I want advice about changing my habits where relationships are concerned.

I do think that a big reason why I do this is some thought or feeling that if I have sex with a guy, he'll like me, even though I know that that's stupid and the wrong way to approach a situation. I also know that I have many other attributes and qualities that are attractive.

Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.