[Angelica]

I didn't see him almost a week. Holidays with family, you know. Then I declared my New Year resolution as not "seeing" him agian. He emailed me back that he "will try to help me on that one" although he has "a weakness for beautiful and intelligent women" (plural - I'm included in this category ). I know you already told me I need to feel good about getting out. And I know it was stupid to hope that he will try to stop me or atleast show me how unhappy he is with my decision. I know everything, I am intelligent woman, but do I feel good? Or, no, I feel horribly sad. I feel like part of me is dying now. Ir will be so hard to make a "happy face" tonight. So cold.

[fanou22]

I have been there too.

You wanted him to fight to stay with you, right? Well he will do so only after the holidays.
Next week he will come around and instead of helping he will be luring you back into his arms.

The best way to end with MM is with NC. Actually it is the only way possible for you to be able to move on.
Enjoy your time tonight. For all you know you might meet some SG.

What impression would you give if you were sad? Not a good one I bet.
Think of yourself. Even if you have to fool yourself into a temporary happiness, do it.

No MM is worth your pain and suffering. In my struggle to end things with xMM, it has become my motto which I keep on repeating "If you really love me then let me be and wish me happiness"

[Angelica]

Thank you, fanou22.
The worse thing I'm not sure he really loves me or ever did. I had put myself into a nice illusion. I'm married too. So no SG, I hope. It's too complicated. And yes, must fool yorself.
I never loved my husband (sad, but true - yeah I know your reaction - I will divorce eventually OR NOT - maybe counseling will help) and I did love this MM. Or at least I convinced myself so.
Did it work out for you?

[SummerRae]

Angelica, hon, I can completely relate to your feelings. i feel the same way. MM is in Iraq right now, emailing me and calling and I just don't know how to "break things off". I don't know whether to tell him in an email or to just cut all ties. When he calls, just hang up or what. I know, he won't leave a wife. They have babies together. He's been with her for 12+ years. I know the feelings you're experiencing, I'm just trying to get over them myself, u know? PM me if you ever need to talk.

[KissMyTiara]

Originally posted by fanou22
You wanted him to fight to stay with you, right? Well he will do so only after the holidays.
Next week he will come around and instead of helping he will be luring you back into his arms.

Is this the common experience - that the MM's sorta disappear around the holidays but then run back full steam ahead right after the new year?

My MM spent Christmas Eve with me (told W he had to work), so he's spending tonight with her "to make up for it." Eck.

I am SO getting tired of this.