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I have been with the woman of my dreams for almost 2 years.
We came together while she still lived with the father of her little girl although they were seriously on the rocks (sleeping in separate rooms for over a year amongst other signs that the relationship had ended) and when we met we fell madly in love and she left him for me.

He tried to use guilt and her maternal instincts to manipulate her and it worked once – she went back with him but it only lasted 2 weeks before she was crying on the phone to me that she wanted me back.
She has always had her ups and downs, as a single parent of 24 years old that’s expected and from time to time she has needed some time off from our relationship but it always cam together in the end.

Most recently she has been spending time with her ex, just as friends and kinda doing the family thing with him a little which I have no problem with but now we have split up because she says that she needs to work through her guilt about cheating on him with me and then leaving him for me, especially with a child involved etc.

She says that its not that her family is not together so much as how she went about it that makes her feel bad to feel good with me.
It is obvious to me that he has been pushing her buttons instead of respecting her willingness to have a friendship with him and her space as an individual.
She is at this stage consumed with guilt and taking time off from ALL relationships.
Obviously I'm devastated, we have a wonderful relationship and I really want it back but more importantly I want her to be able to remember the reasons she left him and be confident that she did the right thing.
We were discussing marriage about a month ago and it’s been a real blow to me to have everything turn around this way …any advice..?