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O.K I'm new at this but I'm wondering if anyone may have been in my situation bofore, and could give me some input.

I'v been married for 18 yrs. We have a son who's 16. He was born with Spina
Bifida, and is paralyzed from the waist down. Which has always put some stress on out marriage. ( I'm very protective of our son ) I also work 45 + hours a week managing a fast food restaurant. ( very stressfull )

Well my husband always said I was never in the mood to do anything, and if
I would'nt he'd find someone who would. And that's what he did. I caught him having an affair with someone from his church ( we went to seperate churches ).
And I threw him out this past June. He immediatly moved in with her and it was
war. I filed for a divorce. She turned out to be a player who had a reputation for dating men she could rob, and when she seen he was loosing half of everything
she kicked him out.

We got back together in Sept. But it appears he was in love with that whore!
I guess all the years I spent working my but off, and caring for my son, my "poor"
husband felt neglected, and when she came in looking for her next victim he was
easy.

I do still love him, and I can forgive and move on IF I thought he loved me.
But I really don't think he does. He admitted to being in love with her, and I
think he always will be. Her kids are grown, she's a bank teller, with no responsibilty at home, and I guess she was able to devote all her time to him.

I'm 42 and my husband is 54. I don't know if he's going thru some midlife crisis or something. But I can't keep trying , when the love is gone.

Anyone been there ?!

Unloved in Missouri