[StillHurtin]

A year and half ago my H had an A while we were seperated. He had filed for D and I kicked him out of our home. Two months later our children and I moved back to my hometown where my family lives for support. About a month after we moved away my H called me and said he made the biggest mistake of his life and wanted us back. After a month or two of talking about our marriage, the A ect I decided to try to give our marriage another chance. Every holiday or birthdays when we have family get 2gethers my oldest sister (whom I am very close to) refuses to go b/c my H is there. She can't stand him for what he has done to me. Her H can't stand him either. They refuse to go anywhere my H maybe at. All my other family members (parents, siblings) have accepted H back into the family. They don't agree w/ what he did but they still forgave him, like I did. My mom is so torn up about this. Since Thanksgiving is almost here she told me that the holidays will never be the same again and that we are not the family we use to be (we always got 2gether for holidays). It hurts her so much my sister and bil are acting like this. She had tears in her eyes. Family is very important to my mom. We have always been a close family and now b/c of H's A my sister and bil refuse to attend any family get 2gethers. All my friends have told me it is her loss and if she wants to be this way let her, she needs to grow up and get over it. What can I possibly say to my mom to help ease the pain of what she is going through? It tears her apart my sister and bil refuse to go to family gatherings b/c of my H.