for some time i wanted to break up because ive been kinda bored of my monotonous relationship with my 5 years GF, and i tryed twice, but she wont let me, like i try to scream out the words, but we argue and end up making up. I tryed a couple of more times and i ended up with another girl i knew from my university. We live 2 hours apart and she started traveling a lot, i mean a lot and i kinda got used for a while being a alone, and we trayed to break up and i coudnt do it again, and finally i ended up cheating on her with a good friend of mine.
We broke up and a couple of months later i started goin out with the girl i chated with and honestly, its all bad, we fight a lot and argue a lot and she's quite a bitch. Its been like 8 months since i broke up and my Ex keeps talking to me and i call her and all that but she doesnt know that i cheated on her. I dont plan telling her either becuase after i broke up with her i realized how much a loved her and now i even appreciate her more than before.
honestly i wanted to brake up before cause i wanted to try new things. Im only in my 20's and i wanted to go out with some girls before i conclude that a girl is perfect and i wanna end up with her. I kinda wanna break up with the girl im currently dating becuase she's bipolar or something, everything was perfect when she was only my friend, and she was always happy, and always having fun, but since she's started going out with me, she's the complete opposite. It suks completly. SOmetimes i cant stand her sometimes i really like her. The thing is that in my previous relationship my ex would like talk to me and call me and tell me things all the time, and she expressed her love for me and i did the same towards her. With this girl its like the person i knew before dissapeared and this new thing is in front of me, she is beautiful and all but i just want a girl who appreciates me. This girl is bipolar, sometime she likes me, sometimes she doesnt speak to me.
I dont wanna get back with my EX yet, but i know that she was the perfect girl and i ***ed it all up. I still keep touch with her because i still love her and i still dont know how da hell i cheated on her because ive always thought that cheating is completly wrong and ****ed up. I dont plan to tell her cause she wont forgive me , eeeeeeeeeever.
I just wanna know what someone else would do in my shoes.
I think you need to just STOP. Just stop with women for a while and figure out who YOU are first. Break off all ties with your girlfriend and whoever you're dating and all that jazz.
* break it off with your current gf. You don't really have the connection with her to sustain a relationship, and having her in your life will prevent you from getting your head straight.
* not consider getting back with your original gf UNLESS you come clean about the cheating. Yeah, I know...she'll rip your head off and stuff it down your neck stump. Still, that's better than her finding out down the road, and she will respect you for being honest proactively.
* try casual dating for a while, rather than having all-consuming love affairs. It definitely makes sense to get to know a variety of people when you are young and single - you can make a much better choice of life partner that way.
* ask yourself if you can bear being single for a while, if it is necessary for your personal growth.
Good luck!
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I think everyone can appreciate the fact that when you are young, you want to have fun with a lot of people, but it is purely irresponsible, disrespectful and deceptive to cheat. You could have ended it (no one can force you to date or sleep with them) and then moved on to new girls. That would have been the responsible route to take. You have to stop coming up with excuses to validate your infidelity. Admitting you were completely wrong in doing so is your first step. Then apologize. From there, see where it goes, but it is really up to your ex. But there is no point in trying to rebuild a relationship on a lie. Take it from someone who was recently cheated on, she may be able to forgive you, but don't be surprised if she doesn't.
I say you break up, go single for a while and grow up in the process. Then see if you can get back with the chick you cheated on.
I always laugh when people try and use the "I'm young and want to experiment or try new things, etc" excuse for the reason why they fugged up. I'm only 25 and I never had that mentality. If anything I am the total opposite and want to be with someone who will be there forever and stuff rather than explore my options and be left with nothing but wasted time. Tired of people acting like because they are young it is a valid reason to be silly or do stupid things. Life does not end when you get older meaning you can have fun or whatever else. Young people need to quit thinking that as you age your life becomes boring and you cant do anything. I dont get it at all.
It sounds like your the sort of person who likes the security of a relationship. You need to at least see whats out there before you make any sort of decision so get rid of the current girlfriend since thats not going anywhere and well come clean with your old one. She'll be pissed off at first but by the time your done looking around she'll have forgiven you.
Don't get back with your ex--you called your relationship with her monotonous. Why would it suddenly be different a second time around? It's easy to remember the choice parts of a past relationship and forget all the junk that you didn't like about something.
Break up with your current girlfriend in person and establish no contact. Be honest about not feeling the same anymore, but don't be mean. It's better than lettting a miserable situation drag on for both of you.
Stay single--you don't sound ready to date anyone. If you want to enjoy yourself, get out and date/have sex casually. Like UFC Kevin said, figure out what you want.
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