[praying for rain]

I don't often ask for advice or anything online, and maybe that's not what I'm doing. More than anything I'd just like to get opinions from others that don't know me in any way.


About 6 months ago I got this great job at Office Depot, it pays well and it's enjoyable. I also met the computer tech and liked him right from the start. He kept mentioning he had a child so I always assumed he was in a relationship or married, but then we started getting to know eachother better and I found out that his wife left him 2 years ago and he is the one who takes care of 2 year old Hannah most of the time.


I don't mind the child at all, in fact I love children. I get along with children great, and Hannah adores me. I adore Brandon and we have a great relationship. So far we have been dating for the past 4 months or so and I've even been staying with him quite often.


That's what bothers me. He lives on his own in his apartment but his ex-wife lives not more than 5 apartments down from him in the same complex. She sees the child often (not a problem) but I hate her always being around. Also he lives in the apartment they lived in together when they were married. Now and then I will be cleaning his place (i like to clean, and it's fun when a 2 year old tries to help) but I find things from their old marriage. Just last week I found photos taken at the wedding, or I will find some of her clothes. Is it normal for this to bug the **** out of me?


Well the other day on the way to school I stopped in at this other apartment complex to check on prices and stuff like that. I told Brandon about it and he decided to check it out as well. We both love the place and could afford it easily. I asked him last night if he planned on renewing his lease (that ends next month) or moving into a new apartment. He said he thought he would renew the lease for 6 months, have me added and just save up. I don't know what he needs to save up for, he would be paying less at this other place (with my help) per months rent. I'd really like to have our own place away from his ex-wife and away from the apartment they shared for 2 years.


Sorry of this is long, it's just been bugging me. Brandon is a great boyfriend and a wonderful father. I love him very much but living that close to his ex-wife is starting to annoy me.

- Steph

[tiki]

Living THAT close would be bothersome to me too. Do they switch out visitation often? Do they communicate often? Communicate well?

I don't think it's too much to ask of him (if you guys are serious enough) to get a new place with the two of you. Kill two birds with one stone, he moves, he packs, he gets rid of old unnecessary items.

Just tell him how you feel.

[praying for rain]

They do switch out visitation often. His ex-wifes mother (she lives with her a few apartments down) watches Hannah for Brandon while he is at work. She is great with Hannah, and a wonderful person, even she thinks her daughter is one (pardon my language) f*ck up.


Sometimes Brandon has to be to work at 7AM so Hannah spends the night with the ex-wife and mother. His ex-wife has never objected to Brandon dating, and has always wished us the best but she is always around.


I think I do just need to bug him some more about moving.

[tiki]

You don't have to move TOO far away of course. My ex and I switch up a couple times within the week. It won't be a horrible inconvenience...hopefully. Yeah, just talk to him. Good luck.