[discouraged]

i need some opinions please.

i see my gf about once a week, cuz she has a pretty busy life with school, work, and her friends. so this already puts a strain on things cuz i want to see her more.

anyway, lately it seems like whenever she goes out on the weekends with her friends, i am rarely ever invited. so that makes me mad. and so i brought it up that we should do more with more people, instead of just sitting around one night a week during the week and she said that that would be ok, but then she said that we shouldn't go to the bar.

now, i can be a pretty jealous guy at times, but i mean if she doesn't ever wanna go to the bar with me, especially when she is with her friends, then how can i NOT act kinda jealous? why would she not want me there?

but when we do things with each other...its usually really fun and we have a good time.....

so do you think that its her friends that don't want me there or her? or both? i know that gilrs like their "girl time" but this is crazy.

isn't a relationship supposed to add to your social life? how can it do that when you don't invite your boyfriend out with you whenever you are out with your friends? usually she doesn't have a problem with hanging out with my friends, but lately she doesn't seem interested in that either.....

how do i stop this from becoming more of a bed buddy/booty call type of thing and back to being more of an actual relationship?

so should i just flat out ask her why she doesn't wanna go out anywhere with me when she's around her friends then? cuz if it is because either her friends or her or both don't want me there, then she might not actually tell me that.

how can i fix this?

[Merin]

Well, it could be that it is her friends and her who don't want you to come for a girls night out... it would I suppose seem odd that you would be the only guy coming along with her and her girlfriends for a "Girls night"

However, I think it is curious why she would say that she was all okay with the two of you doing more things together with other people but insist that a bar/club would be out of the question I guess if it were me and my guy told me that, I would wonder as well what it is exactly he didn't want me to see if we did this activity together.

Possible for you to discuss this with her a little more? Maybe the two of you come to some compromise.. perhaps set aside days that are just for the two of you and days that the two of you will do things with both sets of friends?

If nothing else, let her know that you miss spending time with her.. that you understand that she has a busy schedule but you would like some of her time as well.

Good Luck