First of all, I am a heterosexual woman. Something happened a few months ago on the subway that's making me question this. I have a boyfriend that I've been with for about a year now. Prior to that, I was in a relationship with a man for 5 years. I've never been with a woman.
It was rush hour and I was on the subway. I was standing up and this woman was sitting down. I looked at her and thought she was the most beautiful woman I've ever seen in my life. Not the stereotypical beautiful, but an intelligent AND beautiful kind of beautiful -- . I couldn't take my eyes off her. She had shoulder-length wavy black hair and a Mediterranean olive complexion.
She was reading a book and then she looked up and for a split second I looked right into her eyes and it set off butterflies in my stomach like those you get when you kiss the first boy in the schoolyard. Her stop came up and she got up to get off the train. Just as she was going to the door, the train was coming to a stop and the force of the train stopping so fast shoved us a little. Her hand was wrapped around the bar I was facing and with the force of stopping, my chest brushed against her fingers and it sent warm tingles down my spine and on my skin. I was wearing a sheer bra and a shirt 95-5 cotton-spandex shirt and I could feel her fingers. It was the most erotic thing I ever experienced.
I'm sort of laughing as I'm writing this -- it's something I'd not tell my friends. I'm not quite sure why yet. I'm trying to figure that out.
I'm not attracted to any of my female friends. I'm not attracted to just anyone who's female. I'm drawn to befriending men who have a lot of attractive female friends. I get annoyed with men who only have bimbo female friends. I met this friend of a friend lately whose female friend I found really hot. It's not good enough that they look good -- there has to be something about them that I find really cool. We spent about a half hour flirting, while she was waiting for this guy to get ready so they could go out. We were smoking a joint in the backyard and while passing it, she was brushing my arm in this way and again ... all the butterflies, skin tingles, shiver down spine, etc.
I've told my bf about it and he says he's cool with it -- but is he really? I've never had this talk with a serious bf before. Has anyone here had a similar talk with their bf or gf before? He doesn't bring it up much and I'm uncertain about his comfort level with it. How do I bring it up again -- I often feel a little awkward talking about it to him.
I'm not bisexual or gay at all, but I often feel attracted to an extremely handsome, intelligent-looking and well-groomed man I meet. (I was gonna to say "come across", but that's dangerous with all the crazy fools on the shack )
I've thought about this, and I've realised it's because that man represents the qualities I admire and aspire to for myself.
Talk to your boyfriend about it! Chances are he will find it fascinating and even tittilating. I know I did.
Wow Pap, didn't know we could have similairities......who would've thought?
Any way....I'm not bi-sexual or gay or even curious.....but I know a great looking guy when I see one.....and I'm not ashamed to let my wife or anyone else know it....I've never had those feelings like you sylah.....but from what I gathered, most women admire other woman and their bodies.....
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Hm. I don't look at women's bodies except sometimes to figure out how I'd compare in terms of overall size - to try to see myself from the outside, as it were. I think Angelina Jolie is dreadful looking and no woman has ever turned me on. Some women, like Halle Berry, are beautiful to look at like works of art, but I seem to definitely be on the farther end of the sexual continuum.
But I think it's nifty to hear men admitting they think other men are attractive. Darn well about time.
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