Hey guys and girls. I really need some input on this one. My girlfriend of 4 year broke up with me in July,and i have been doing the no contact since then. Then a strange thing happen this morning around 7:00am. I check my calling ID,and saw that she had call,but she didn't leave me message,so what shall i do,should i call back or just wait and not rush to return the call,but that her call back again....
I'd wait a few days, then nonchalantly call her back. When you do, be polite and only talk about casual subjects. Don't talk about your relationship unless she brings it up, and don't act like you're ready to get back with her right away (even if you are). Congrats on her calling - after 4 months, I'd be thinking I'd never hear from her again. Keep us updated on how things go.
Well if she didn't leave a voicemail, I would never call back. But I guess you can call her a day or so later - but don't leave a voicemail message too.
well if no contact has worked for you that is great........then why are you still thinking about her so much?
You don't call back! You wait until she calls you back and find out what she wants. Than you continue the no contact and move on to someone who values you as a person and not dump you!
ah yes...the wonderful "just forget it" advice from beautiful where every breakup should be broken down in to the most simplistic form and nobody should EVER try and work things out because nobody EVER makes a mistake when they break up and regrets it afterward. Someone makes a mistake with us and we should all just tell them to fug off because we are all perfect people and we should expect others to know this and should expect others to be perfect as well.
Once again, no wonder the divorce rate is so high...
Originally posted by beautiful
well if no contact has worked for you that is great........then why are you still thinking about her so much?
So true. If what you wanted was to get her back and that's why you initiated NC then go for it and talk to her, but if you did it because she caused you pain and you could not take it, do not call because it will throw all that strength you had out the window.
Well it was really my fault that she broke up with me....cause of some of my bad behavior and yes i move on,but still feel bad what i did toward her,just want to make peace with her and tell her i'm truly sorry....that all u know forgiveness.....
I also want to mention that it was my fault,because of some of my bad behavior that she broke up with me, and i think it was the best thing that she did,cause now i knew i had a problem ,and is now working on it......
nah don't follow your heart. Realize that you simply can't change for the better (nor can she) and that becuase things didn't work out the first time for whatever reason(s), they can't EVER work out again. People can't make mistakes and if they do, don't ever forgive them!
Yes, I am being sarcastic. Just using Beautiful's line of logic...the logic that has lead to so many divorces in north america and most likely so many one night stand type ****.
Dude, if you don't want to get back with your ex and jsut want to let her know you were sorry for treating her poorly then why would you be afraid to call her?
You've hit the lottery!... now it's time to cash in the winning ticket....... but make sure you have all the security details worked out before you go off and claim it.
In other words,
Play it safe... if she really does care.... and wants soemthing, she'll call back........ clear out your voicemail........ and give her room to speak her mind. If she doesn't leave a message, wait for her to call a 3rd time........ she'll leave a message, if not.... wait a day and call her back.
That would be the safest plan...... be strong..... dont' screw it up by being too..... eager.
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