I am curious as to why some men prefer to date b$%ches? I have experienced several times in my life a guy that has either gone back to or hooked up with someone people have referred to as a b$%ch......I consider myself a nice person...but am hardly a push over...is there something about these less than sweet women that men prefer.....or it is just that the men have low self esteem and don't feel worthy of someone decent???
I've also thought about this quite often. I think that men like B*tch's for the same reason women like "bad boys." They like the challenge or pursuing them and getting them. If you're nice and sweet and normal, there's no challenge there. You're easy to get. With bad boys or b*tch's, you have to work a little more.
Hummm, interesting....my ex hooked up with someone (while he and I were still together!) who people have referred to as "ruthless and a high maintenance b%^&ch"...strong words in my opinion...I just don't get why he would want this as opposed to someone loyal and not b$%^chy? Maybe she is more exciting.......Other opinions???? Want to hear from the MEN!!!
You may perceive these girls to be bitches, but it doesn't mean that they are. Everyone thought my wife was a bitch when we first married, they know now that she isn't because she's got to know them. And they got to know her. I'm sure that there are some that are truly bitches.....and for those guys maybe it's a dominance thing.
I know that if my wife turned out to be that way, I would fight the fire with a larger fire.
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Nope, not jealous, I've seen her and definitely not something to be jealous of there.....just curious......he was getting it good and often...just cause someone is nice doesn't mean they don't know how to please a man.....she is the kind of love and leave em is what I have been told......so, in that sense, they are perfect for each other...I don't think he wanted any ties since he is going to JAIL the end of October......
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Well, I'm not a male.... but my observations have been this....
Some people (regardless of gender) always go for what they "percieve" to be unattainable.
I think B!tch means differnt things to different people..... I really don't believe anyone likes someone who treats them badly.... I think it becomes more a case (or lost cause however you want to look at it ha! ) of when someone gets involved with a B!tch or an A**hole... they want to be the one to change them... "I'm gonna make yo a** love me girl!" LOL sad, but true sometimes.
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I don't know her Moose, so they were not perceptions that I have made..they were words that people who know her have used....I think there is some truth about him not wanting to settle down...and her being more of that type....she is 10 years younger...and I am not going to be a bi$%ch just to keep some guy..I have to be myself....and if the guy doesn't want someone loyal, honest and nice...well, he's not who I want to stick around...looking for Mr. Right at this point in my life..the man who wants a family, etc....not a lying jailbird!
Yes, men prefer women of the B!tchy variety. How do I know this you ask? Because when I were a dating woman, I would be hateful when the relationship first begen (don't know why) but as it progressed, and I fell in love, I would become of the nurturing sort, and get DUMPED! So I was a b!tch up until the day I got married, but as soon as I started being nice to my husband, he became an *********. So now, I remain B!tchy, and I have a very loving husband.
Monday...I've experienced the same...as soon as they know you really care..they get scared...like maybe they really can't pull this off and live up to the expectations of themselves that they have set up....and they run scared....I did learn from this last experience not to let the person know how much you care..........at least not for a long time....keep them guessing.....and chasing
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I have wondered this same thing many times! One of my closest guy friends married a girl that, while I wouldn't consider her a b*tch, she's VERY demanding & is always on his a$$ about something. When I found out they were getting married, I was shocked! I didn't (and still don't) know how he can stand to spend the rest of his life with her! Since I've gotten to know her, I like her more than I did at the beginning of their relationship, but I can't stand spending long periods of time with her. I have other guy friends though, that say they just want a nice, down to earth girl...not one like that!
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) of when someone gets involved with a B!tch or an A**hole... they want to be the one to change them... "I'm gonna make yo a** love me girl!" LOL sad, but true sometimes.
I didn't (and still don't) know how he can stand to spend the rest of his life with her! Since I've gotten to know her, I like her more than I did at the beginning of their relationship, but I can't stand spending long periods of time with her. I have other guy friends though, that say they just want a nice, down to earth girl...not one like that! 
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