In Search Of...Having a hard time forming friendships or finding companions, lovers, or associates? Is someone pursuing an unwelcome relationship with you? Talk about your experiences here.
Why do I have to be in a relationship to be "happy" ?
Why are all my friends trying to "fix" me up??? It's getting on my last nerve!!!
Why is it so "alien" to them that I possibly am happy being single for once in my life???
I admit I get a little lonely sometimes but who doesn't?
1. I don't have to deal with the drama of a relationship
2. I don't have to check in - I come and go as I please
3. I don't have to pick up someone else's dirty underwear
4. I don't have to cook unless I want to
....the list can go on and on.
I'm comfortable being single. Does that make me strange to people in relationships and why does being in a relationship have to validate who you are as a person????
well u dont have to be in a relatioship, but some ppl think that way. that they can only be happy by being with someone, if ur friends are all in relatioships, they just might be feeling sorry for u, or they want u to be like them, so u can feel with them.
and maybe u r happy now for being single, but just wait a little while, and u will be like man i need to find someone, then ur gonna say why am i single, and y cant i be happy being single, lol. becasue humans like companionship, thats how they live.
Yeah, I found being single to be "fun" for about 6 months...now I am lonely..it's not that I don't like myself or an unhappy without someone..but I agree that we are meant to be with other people and to have that intimate bond with someone special...it's been a while for me..I thought I had found "him" this summer, but he blew me off for someone much younger...I would much rather be in a relationship than be single at this point of my life... (35)
You just need to have single friends, is all. One of the best things about being single is that you can do as you please (within the limits of money and the law) and no one can say boo about it. Remember that.
How do we combat loneliness when single? Read, read, read! That and working out.
Yes, I also agree that being single is hugely overrated. It is good for about six months but then sometimes you start to feel lonely, and the best manner in which to contend with that is to read, go back to school, improve oneself, stay busy. Taking a lover is also a good idea, as long as he's not a MM thank you very much. Buying a new hot pink vibrator is also good. Sometimes having a simulated penis is just the thing, no strings ya know, no annoying requests for anal penetration, God some men huh?
There are prices for all of our choices though and while I think singleness IS overrated, I also think marriage is overrated. Do I know where I stand? I am currently single, and I wouldn't change it for the world. My man and I get together several times a month and the sex is still fab-a-lus.
Also, Spock, I'm curious, "as long as it's within the limits of money and the law"? THE LAW? Are you planning to bump someone off? Just curious girlfriend, don't git yer feathers ruffled.
But onto the topic here, I DO think that being single is preferable to staying in a painful relationship, both can be joyous, and both have their prospective prices on our souls, did that sound dramatic enough? Stay happy people.
Last edited by Kay Kent; 11th September 2004 at 4:14 AM..
I would like to find someone, but I also think if I´m single there must be reason for that (destiny-blabla, you know ) I have the chance to do whatever I want to do. I´m nearly 28 and I see a lot of other people my age getting married and having kids. You have a lot of responsibility, I can enjoy my egotrip, work on myself, enjoy my freedom. You have so much more time that you can invest in yourself. Being alone is still better than having a relationship with someone that you actually don´t want. Enjoy being single and use it wisely
I agree Kooky, I see waaay too many people I know with people they don't want, and kids out of it. I'd rather be single than stuck with someone I don't want....
Guilty as charged, but you're not the only one whose posts I enjoy reading Spock.
I also follow Sinner around the forum too, and other interesting and intelligent persons as well. I always enjoy Hokey Regigions and a few others as well, like the Debster, supermom etc. So take it as I compliment that I seek out your posts. I'ts been awhile since I have been able to have free computer time, I am moving, keeping busy etc. Keep smiling Spock, and stay nasty!
Well, right, being single is better than being with just any old person...otherwise, I wouldn't be single!! This being said, there is still that yearning for a special connection with someone great (not just anybody.....but finding the right guy is worth the wait!!..That's why I am single)....
Good answer! One of my single friends. She had the chance to get back with one of her Ex's. He blew her off for someone else.
He phoned her and she said she wasn't gonna risk getting hurt again and that she was happy being single.
I was single for ages too. I think that is the one thing I liked about being single. You have no one to answer too and you could do as you please.
I agree being single is more fun when you have friends who are single. When I was single. All my friends had boyfriends. Kind of made me feel a little lonely. When we all went out.
When I eventually found someone three of them become single again. Lol.
I think your friends may be trying to fix you up because they may feel akward having you as the only single one in the group. I'm sure they are probably thinking that you might feel akward as well. I'm in the same type of situation right now. I just moved and eveyone I know already has significant others and they do things as couples so i don't get invited as much because i'm the only single person.
I just think it might be a way of getting you more involved with the group. Of course it always seems to work out when you ended up finding someone they will be single and what you to be single again. But that is life, right? I'm glad to hear that you are happy with were you are in life right now, that's the most important thing. Good luck and have fun.
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It's getting on my last nerve!!! 
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