[Lovebird]

I had a date with a guy I met at a country western dance bar. We also take group dance lessons from the same people (not in the same class) so are acquainted with some of the same people. I mentioned to him I was going to take one of the weekly group lesson given at the "bar" and twice during the date he said he would probably see me there. Well he came to the bar like he said he would and we spent a lot of time dancing and talking. We are both in our 50's.

My question is, a lot of his body language seemed negative according to what I've read, so what do you think. While he was affectionate and open on our date, during the time we spent at the bar he crossed his arms a lot and spent time looking around the room. He did spend the entire evening with me and the place was not very crowded. He looked uncomfortable. Although he held my hand often during the earlier date, In the bar he did not show physical affection until we left the bar and he walked me to my car. At the car he put his arms around me and kissed me a bit and was very attentive. He has his kids this weekend so he said he would call me after the weekend.

I am new to dating after a divorce and one 15 month relationship, so I don't want to jump to conclusions. Is he just shy or not comfortable with public affection? I know I just need to wait and see what happens, but I would like to get an idea of what you guys think just to educate me.

[simplybrill]

I think you've got the idea, yes it sounds like he doesnt really like public affection. He isn't treating you like a stranger, or just a friend in public is he?

Im no expert, but I dont like it when a guy's looking around the room a lot, I wouldnt call it a red flag, but its something to keep an eye on. Or he could just be a watcher, just looking around in general - but it DID bother you enough to write it here, so I would go with your gut on that one.