[hugznkisses21]

Ok....
Question...What does this mean or am I paranoid.

I told my bf that I was feeling nausea from the new birth control. He said why dont you go back on the pill. An I said why dont I just go without sex as a joke and he said well that would be your choice.....Does that me he doesnt need it form me, like i.e he getting it from somewhere else??

Maybe I am overreacting but he doesnt seem to be as much or a go getter for sexual contact like he used to in our relationship. It has dies down after a year????? Help!

[Pocky]

You're being paranoid..

[EC]

Definitely being paranoid.

I think he recognized you were joking and joked back. No biggie.

What is a biggie is the fact that you say it has 'died' down. Have you spoken to him about this problem?

[hugznkisses21]

Yes,

He says that he is just comfortable in the relationship and says that he feels he doesnt have to express it so much cause he know I love him....I dunno. He stressed alot too I guess.

I can bring it up again but it may upset him bringing it up so much.

[EC]

It can happen in a long relationship. You do kinda get used to eachother so you just assume that the other person knows how you feel about them.

You both sound stressed. I say take a day off the two of you and spend the whole day in doors, in pajamas, on the bed.

Theres plenty of websites the give ideas to add a little spice

I think you're being paranoid, but here are a couple of questions:

1). How often did you have sex a). in the very beginning b). a couple of months ago?

2). How often do you have sex now?

-Deranged

[hugznkisses21]

Ya great Idea!

The thing is is we live 1 hr away from eachother and see eachother maybe twice a week.....So Its like I almost expect him to be all lovey dovey since I dont see him often....Fat chance!

I know what he said wasnt a joke....Should I confront him on it and ask him on this...I have in the past and he says yes I love you and Yes I love doing this with you and that with you and yes you are attractive to me....so im confussed. He does still call me sweet names and call me when he can so i dont suspect cheating but I also dont want him to go and do anything if he isnt happy with our sex life...ok now i think im just running in circles

[hugznkisses21]

Well usually when he have a night together we do cause we both live at home...but he doesnt initate as much and sometimes says he too tired???

[EC]

I'm taking that he works a lot and hey what if maybe he is 'just tired'.

I have been really tired sometimes and I wanted it but my body was like uh uh not today.

If you have already talked to him and he says your still attractive and he still love doing that with you then I don't see a problem.

Maybe your thinking about it too much and your not enjoying the attention 'HE IS' giving you.

[hugznkisses21]

I guess you right but what are your takes on the comment that he made when I said why dont I just go with out sex?

Maybe he's posting on some forum right this second trying to figure out why his girlfriend said "why don't I just go without sex?".

If you get me.

-DA

[hugznkisses21]

ha ha ha...hey thats not fair!!

I was trying to make a point with him. I guess i was hoping for him to say noooo dont do that!!

So it was a test? Safe to say an obvious one, too.

It has been my experience that when a guy knows he's being tested, he will fail. They don't like to be manipulated into saying what we want them to say and the same goes for women.

-Deranged

[EC]

Thats what I meant by he recognized the joke and joked back.

He realized what you were doing and didnt want to say what you wanted to hear to he said what he said knowing you would raise an eyebrow.

[tanbark813]

Originally posted by DerangedAngel
It has been my experience that when a guy knows he's being tested, he will fail. They don't like to be manipulated into saying what we want them to say and the same goes for women.

Exactly right. I do the same thing.