[Joce1983]

Well i have a problem with my boyfriends parents. My 21st was a week ago and my bf of 3 and a half yrs went through my mobile and saw some pretty bad messages i had written and he had written to me. We had been having troubles and i guess his cousin was just there at the wrong time.

Anyway he told his parents and sister as they were at my party and to start out with, i was going to leave my bf, he was very upset with me and i told him it was just flirting that got out of hand and it was only txt. So eventually after having a long talk about it we got back together and decided we should move out because currently we live at the back of his parents place in one room.

So now my bfs parents are making a big deal out of nothing, i understand that they are his parents and did upset him but if he can forgive me i think they should just accept that. His mum confronted him this afternoon and told my bf that he thinks i am a minipulative bitch and that i dont love him. My bf wouldnt tell me anymore cause he said i would get angry at her, so i can only guess what else she said. She told him that she would never speak to me again. He came back up in tears. He had stuck up for me and she got the ****s with him , aswell as his dad.

I told my bf that i would go and talk to them and not get mad but i know that will be very difficult. Im not sure what to say or what to do . His mum is trying to make him choose and thats just not fair to me or him....cause he does love me and i love him, we have gone through alot and to get past it all i think we have something very strong. What do i do? Ive been depressed for a long time aswell, i cant think straight............i know i need to talk to them but what do i say?

They have been like a second family to me , i cant believe they would turn on me for something that was a mistake............my bf has made mistakes but i have kept it to myself..............we arnt all perfect.

please someone help me .

[disconcertainly]

I know what you are going through...the best thing I can tell you is dont let what they think about you hurt your relationship. You still have to respect the fact that they are his parents and they need to respect the fact that you are his girl friend. I know how bad it feels to have untrue things said about you.

On the other hand if your boy friend listens to them.....it is most certainly going to have a negative look on the relationship. Your boyfriend will still need to see his parents but I would ask him that if his parents have something bad to say about you not to say it. He should not have to listen to them badgar the woman that he has choosen to live with.

That way he will respect you and his parents...Honestly they should have more things to talk about than your relationship.