[QUESTIONS]

I'm purging here.. I don't want him back.. I would like to see him rot in heck.. but I'm not GOD and can't dole out punishment.. so here goes...

I have been dating this guy from match.com.. and he seemed the perfect guy.. that alone should have been a red light. he was affectionate, kind, caring, loving, etc. too good to be true... AND THATS A FACT...so we went out for two years.. he asked me to be his wife.. in front of his whole family.. on christmas.. then about two months ago.. something changed.. something felt different... i tried to find out what it was... but he said just busy.. with work etc. so he would not call as often... come by even less.. I would try and find out.. what was wrong.. and boy did I... it seems the scum of the earth.. has been corresponding with someone else from match.com the whole entire two years... and he told her that he was unattached... WHAT WAS I.. CHOPPED LIVER... what a jerk.. I was so good to the guy too... sent him little things in the mail.. left sexy voicemail messages... chocolate kisses on the hood of his truck... etc.... not over doing it.. but ya never know when you would get something from me... cards, too... so I went over his house.. he said everything is fine... I said bull.. and something made me look in his phoen.. and low and behold a strange woman's number... I of course jotted down the phone number... and we did break up.. after July 5... and I didn't do anything with the number .. because I figured I really didn't know if he was cheating on me.. or just liking her... well .. found out he was cheating and he left NO TIME.. to fill my shoes.. in fact.. I think we were both wearing the same size shoe...lol.. so now I'm hoping mad cause he did cheat on me... he introduced his daughter to her... while his daughter was calling me mom... so now I had a right to tell her everything.. and I did..
called her .. but it still didn't do any good.. stupid woman if you ask me... we checked dated etc. everything jived... she is still with him.. it will happen to her too.. cause I hear he's got another one in the wings...

I am just very glad that I got out in time.. before marriage.. and houses were brought.. etc.... he is scum of the earth.. cause I said... just don't cheat on me.. if you get an itch..and see something you like better.. than go for it AFTER YOU BREAK UP WITH ME... he said.. TO ME AND HER.. I WON'T CHEAT ON YOU.. THATS NOT ME... yeah right... HIS daughter told the other daughter of the new woman.. that me and him broke up because of your mom.. then she said she was kidding.. but when I called the girlfriends house.. her daughter confirmed it.. so why she would want to be with a lying cheating sack of garbage .. is beyond me..

WELL SHE CAN HAVE HIM.. cause all he is going to do is continue like this.. lying and cheating woman after woman..playing with people's feelings.. until he gets his hurt big time.. or goes for counseling.. because he is on sick man... I know that I am a loving sexy vibrant woman who does not cheat.. who would never even think about it.. I can be totally committed in a relationship..and know that someone who doesn't cheat and will appreciate the things I have to offer is out there.. and I know that no relationship is perfect... and you need to work on it.. in order to build a great relationship.. but to accept less.. is to settle.. something that I am not willing to do..

HE LOST A GREAT WOMAN... but his loss will be someone elses gain.. and I GAINED THE KNOWLEDGE .. THAT HE WAS DOING THIS TO ME.. and saying he loved me.. he can't even love himself... how's he gonna love someone else...

I feel bad.. yes.. I feel used,... and cheated on... but I will get over it... and I am getting my life back in order... so beware... LOOK FOR SIGNS... and don't make excuses for them... don't worry about being alone... cause I guess I was alone in this relationship anyway... get friends around you.. I love my friends..they have been supportive through this entire thing...

I have gone through feelings of .. I want him .. back.. I want him to call.,,, I want to hurt him... I want to cry. and cry I did... I now I'm at the stage.. where I have acceptance that this all went on... say good riddance... to a man who will never know the meaning of the word "LOVE"...

I'm also sorry about him getting his daughter involved in all these women's lives... she is at an impressionable age.. and she will feel that all men are like her father... and this teaches her that lying is okay... which it is not... I am soo glad that I really didn't get my son involved 100%.. there was something holding me back... and I am happy about that... well thanks for listening...

[Vie]

I'm glad you managed to get through the crap. You are right, he sounds like a damn jerk. It's a good thing that you didnt marry him. I'm so fed up with guys like that.


You did the right thing and so good to know that you manage to move on. Not many people are brave like you are. So, I only have one comment to say, "You go girl!"


*~Vie~*

[honey2005]

I'm so sorry this happened to you . I've been in a similar situation, so I know how you feel. My ex did the same things, started acting different, said he was busy, and SURPRISE, he had another girl on the side. But oh well, you're right, we're better off without guys like that in our lives. There are nice guys out there (even if they seem impossible to find) who know how to treat a woman with respect. I'm glad you're past the "I want him back" stage, cause you don't need a man like that in your life. You deserve someone who will treat you the way you treat them, with love, respect and loyalty. Good luck.