i was going to give input...but I'm a dude. My way of motivaton wouldn't be appropriate...I don't think.
needless to say...a few years ago I had a back injury and I got all fat at 200lbs. Although, I didn't really get fat from anything other than I actually enjoyed having the belly. I've always been a fitness 'enthusiast'. Before the back injury, I was eating whole pizzas a day while working out and not getting fat. After the injury, I forgot to change my diet

...that belly grew. Then when I noticed it, it became my buddy...that was one weird time. I enjoyed that sucker
Anyways, 2 years ago I decided enough of my buddy and slowly lost the weight...healthily. Never focused on eating less...just changing how and when. Basically, make it a goal to lose just a pound a week, that comes to 4 lbs a month and 48 in a year. Nice and slow. Of course you can always rush things if you prefer. The thing is, when you think like that, you'll often lose more but the presumed slow progress never makes you falter, it's a mental safeguard thing.
As for guys who ask me what they should do or motivation...I just describe how their abs feel, the cuts of the obliques...the energy and flexibility. With me, I can rest my pecs on my knees. At 31 that's awesome I say

. I can stand there and basically fold myself in half with my elbows almost touching my feet, and I'll tell people..."See, that's what you can do when there's no fat to get in the way."
