[djones]

Hey Guys,

I am still feeling a little lost and sad...I need your help.. I will let you guys just read my orginal post to know my situation....I will just give the update now....todays ago my went to go and see her parents, at the airport she called me to say hi and she wanted to know about I busness idea i had that i mentioned to her last week...well anyway we talked like we normaly talked....yesterday i was on the net and she msned me and we chatted (ie shes ok and haveing a good overthere etc), then she told me that her work is going to phase in her new job duties over the next few months...ok fine...that was the reasom why she broke up with me b/c of not enought time, she very busy etc.....ok I thought maybe would have time now, I know she still is very busy...but i still asked her if we can get back togetehr....she told me "I cant...nothing has changed" so I said ok I understand and I support you...she said thx......I just want to know what you guys think.....the no contact thing i know is working for some, for the most part she is the one contacting me via e-mail etc....what can I do? I want to know if what i am doing is the right thing i just be there for her?.....will we just be freinds now or by me showing her that i care and understand we will get back together? Guys i need some help on this one I am really confused...All i know is that I care for her, and that I love her....

[StartingAgain]

So her job is getting more involved and she doen't have time for you anymore. You're buying that? If so, I have a bridge in New York at a great price for you. She's sugar-coating this for you. A lot of us have very demanding jobs, but maintain our relationships, albeit with a bit of effort and rearranging our priorities. If you want it, you can do it. I'm not saying that what she is telling you isn't at least in part true. Her new job is going to take up a lot more of her time and she won't have as much free time left. But she will have free time and she's telling you that she doesn't want to spend it with you. If she loved you she wouldn't feel this way; she'd let something else go.

You love her, but it isn't reciprocated. So you have no choice but to let her go. I'd advise a period of no contact so that you can get through your grieving process. It may be that the two of you can remain friends, but you have to stop being her lover first.

[djones]

thanks for the advice,, its hard to swallow but i think you are right