[OWENRICH]

Hello all,
I wasjust wanting to give new updates. My wife says she doenst love me anymore and wants to throw up in the sight of me. This was saturday afternoon. she also said why havent i talked to my parents and why do i keep talkin to her parents. my reply was my parents werent going to help the issue in my opinion but i will tell them right now if she wanted and her parents keep calling me and asking me why she is so mad at them and yelloing at them and not willing to tell them her feelings about wanting to leave.

I asked her that if she is so set on wanting a separation/divorce then why cant she talk to her parents and let them know her side of the story so they dont have to ask me. she said it was none of the their business. I said it was because they love us very much and are a major part in our lives and wants whats best for all of us.

I also asked her to go to a counsler with me and she said it wont change her mind but she will go if she has to.

she is so angry and every one knows and feels she has an anger problem except her.

now last night she rented a movie and wanted me to watch it with her and half way through the movie asked me to rub her feet and then massage her neck and back. What the hell is going on. it is like night and day. last night everything seemed like our normal nights we use to have.

I really dont know what to do. Her dad wants to approach her and just sit down and talk to her one on one if I say it is okay. Should i agree to this? Or should I just say not now? He really thinks she doesnt want to leave since she hasnt yet and she keeps doing things to suggest she doesnt want to but I dont know

I am now at the point that i almost want to give up but i cant because i stand to lose everything. my wife my son my house and my way of life as i know it. the main thing is my 3 year old son. he is the greaest and i could spend every moment of my day and night with him. for the past few week that is what i have been doing and normally my wife is right there with us but she is now out with friends all the time so she leaves him with me. I dont know if i can handle not seeing my son every day and putting him to bed every night which has been my job since he was born. All i can think about most the day and night is how can I function without them both or even just one of them. I am scared. I know everyone says it will work out and be okay but i am still scared. I am not like most dads as i have been told and i spend alot of time with my sone and his up bringing except when i am at work. and my wife and i always do things together even go to the store and shop and this is primarily her idea because i ask sometimes if my and our son could just stay home or go to the park instead and she would say lets go together instead.

i love my wife and son and dont want to give up but i dont know what to do or what to let her parents say to her as to not scare her off.

[Matilda]

If she is willing to let you "make her go to counseling" then I think that's what you should do. Make an appointment before she changes her mind.

[OWENRICH]

HELP PLEASE

[Mr baseball]

Hi and we are in the same boat. My story is the same is yours but I have a longer marrige. I dont know what to do myself. Most people tell me to dump the broom rider!! My wife told me that she has plans to leave but will stay till she saves enough money to move. I feel like the host if you know what I mean. I can also tell you that we cant make people love us. My wife will let me touch her and stays in the same bed but no sex. I can tell you from my point when it looks like this and I cant do any one thing right it must be time to move on. The only thing lost is time,feelings and the kids seem to lose the most. I feel it was not me who decided to end the marrige but the person who should act first! Good luck!!!!!!!!!!!