[stewwy]

how does one get through going fromone day talking about kids, marriage, etc to 3 days later needing some time apart to coming home and finding used condoms in the bathroom. then, when no explanation is given , freaking out , emailing things that would shame a porn star to so desperately wanting an explanation that will make sense and bring the two back together? once nasty words of reactionary anger are said, can the two ever heal?

I'm having trouble making sense of your post.

So you're in a relationship with someone that wants a break, and then you come home to find used condoms? Or are you the one taking the break and getting it on with someone else?

Who emailed things that would shame a porn star? Was the email sent to another lover?

I can only answer this from what I know so far.

once nasty words of reactionary anger are said, can the two ever heal?

Yes.

-Deranged

[stewwy]

We both needed a break or should I say time to ourselves. I flew home for a couple of weeks to see my family. when I came home I went to throw something out and saw used condoms in the trash. I went to the drawer where we kept them and a brand new box that I had purchase had been open and used. I packed my stuff immediately and left. I asked through email for an explanation from her and there was no reply. Then I just lost it. I reacted with so much anger, through email only. I emailed some pretty foul and hateful things. I dont se a reasonable explanation for the condoms, but I have been wrong before. If I am wrong here I wish she would let me know. I think I reacted naturally. But if I am wrong I just dont know if she will ever be able to get past the things I said. then again, who knows, right?

Ewww. Are you sure they were "used?" Maybe she was just using them over carrots, or other like minded vegetables. Either way, that's not exactly fun stuff is it. A smart man would have flushed them down the toilet though.

[stewwy]

well, considering the fact that she owns a vibrator, I would see much use for a carrot. I am just hoping someday well talk and she will say something like a couple of our friends needed the room. it would still piss me off, but its better than the alternative

[stewwy]

point taken. I guess its obvious that there is no reasonable explanation. I guess shes a b**** that couldnt keep her legs closed, right?